Making friends after college

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One thing, Ive been wondering for a while is how do people make friends and meet people after college? I'm just finished college and Im back home trying to find a job. I went to college out of state, so I cant hangout with my college friends anymore. I do have 1 college friend back home and a couple friends I met online. I know people typically use the common interest activities one. Like meetup.com, but then for me even back in college with joining clubs, I could never seem to make friends or even good acquaintances just thru the means of a club that meets up once every few weeks to a month. I typically made friends thru, friends of friends mostly or by seeing someone around a lot like ALOT. I went to a small school where almost every1 lived on campus, so that made things easier too. Its hard for me to connect with people in such a brief group encounters every few weeks to a month at the most. So how do other aspies do it?

I think you've hit the nail on the head. A lot of groups meet too seldom to get any kind of real traction going.

In addition, a fair number of leaders are kind of half sorry that they have taken on the responsibilities and do not exactly welcome new ideas and new energy.

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Maybe a nearby coffee shop that has an open mike night, Celtic mike night? Sometimes, just hanging out having a tea and reading you can become part of the regulars, just light ping ponging back and forth.

no suggestions people?

Personally, I just don't bother at all. I had enough trouble making friends at college where I spent 4 years living on campus.

Now I just focus on getting a real job and then furthering my career. Now just isn't the time for me to be doing anything about friendship.

If I land in the right workplace and get a more stable situation then I may consider putting a little effort into friend hunting again.

I've dealt with many of those issues, and moved twice since finishing college. I've tried meetup.com and was fortunate to find a local autism support group. But I haven't made much from that other than acquaintances. I would suggest trying those types of things, but success always varies. In my case I can't say I've had a whole lot of success.

How about a sports group that meets more often:

Maybe a softball team (really, an individual sport in a team context)

or a running club?

or a bowling or billiards league?

I asked my psych and she said that I can meet people at the activity and the people I hit it off with, I can try to get their contact info, chat a bit online and maybe meet up for coffee or an activity on the side. Still yet its a bit hard, I dont hit it off with too many people right off the first basis. Its pretty rare. It takes some work to get so we can communicate smoothly and get along. With groups, I tend to be shy.