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Kitty4670
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12 Nov 2018, 10:04 pm

Do friends only text you once a day if they busy working?



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12 Nov 2018, 10:46 pm

I don't even text that often. I don't want any friendships that expect me to return texts promptly.


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13 Nov 2018, 12:17 pm

I have 2 friends at most that I text everyday or every other day and that is because we're busy and even because we don't feel like talking more than that. When I make friends with someone who texts me everyday it stresses me out and usually leads to me ignoring them for longer and longer each time. I don't want friends who expect me to talk to them everyday because even when it comes to friends I love, I still prefer being alone and consider social interaction to be similar to work and takes the same amount of energy from me.



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13 Nov 2018, 4:03 pm

I have friends on Facebook messenger that I don’t talk to everybody, I can go days without talking to them, some friends understand me better than other friends. Does this happen to people here? I’m talking to 2 people from here on Facebook messenger. I guess this is normal to text once a day or more. My friend is different, I met her in person, she was one of my therapists at the healthcare center.



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16 Nov 2018, 11:49 am

Kitty4670 wrote:
Do friends only text you once a day if they busy working?


No, that's not a friend, it shows you that they only contact you when it's convenient for them.



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17 Nov 2018, 6:29 pm

Summer_Twilight wrote:
Kitty4670 wrote:
Do friends only text you once a day if they busy working?


No, that's not a friend, it shows you that they only contact you when it's convenient for them.



I met my friend at a healthcare center, I broke my ankle,I became friends with one of the therapists, I also became friends with my physical therapist too.



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17 Nov 2018, 8:17 pm

Sounds nice, Kitty.

I hope the friendship blossoms.



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18 Nov 2018, 1:27 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
Sounds nice, Kitty.

I hope the friendship blossoms.



Do you mean with the second friend? That was my crush, he was my physical therapist & friend, we didn’t keep in touch.



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18 Nov 2018, 6:35 am

I meant both.



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07 Dec 2018, 1:40 am

kraftiekortie wrote:
I meant both.


I’m still friends with the first person, but not the second. I have a doctor appointment next week for my ankle, I really want to visit the healthcare center, I couldn’t before, cuz of transportation, my doctor appointment is in a different city.



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08 Dec 2018, 12:44 am

I think that texting once a day would either be a really close, strong friendship, or a really extra clingy one, depending on the subject matter and how each person perceives the messages.

My friends don't text me at all. I have a VERY small handful who send me a Snapchat 1-5 times a month. I have others who I would still consider my close friends, but probably text or Snapchat me 2-5 times a year. If I'm lucky to see them around the holidays, I enjoy their company like no time has passed, but in between, they're not really interested in talking.

If you have friends that text you regularly, treasure it!



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08 Dec 2018, 1:28 am

banana247 wrote:
I think that texting once a day would either be a really close, strong friendship, or a really extra clingy one, depending on the subject matter and how each person perceives the messages.

My friends don't text me at all. I have a VERY small handful who send me a Snapchat 1-5 times a month. I have others who I would still consider my close friends, but probably text or Snapchat me 2-5 times a year. If I'm lucky to see them around the holidays, I enjoy their company like no time has passed, but in between, they're not really interested in talking.

If you have friends that text you regularly, treasure it!


If you lonely, I will be your friend :D I met my friend at a healthcare center, she is a therapist. I broke my ankle almost five months ago.



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08 Dec 2018, 6:15 am

I don’t have friends but when I did they never texted me unless they needed something. I always had to initiate



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08 Dec 2018, 6:16 am

banana247 wrote:
I think that texting once a day would either be a really close, strong friendship, or a really extra clingy one, depending on the subject matter and how each person perceives the messages.

My friends don't text me at all. I have a VERY small handful who send me a Snapchat 1-5 times a month. I have others who I would still consider my close friends, but probably text or Snapchat me 2-5 times a year. If I'm lucky to see them around the holidays, I enjoy their company like no time has passed, but in between, they're not really interested in talking.

If you have friends that text you regularly, treasure it!


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27 Dec 2018, 10:47 pm

I don't think text frequency has anything to do with friendship quality.
My best friend of 15 years and I text about once a month, and see each other just a few times per year. We hung out all the time when we were younger, but he's moved away and has a wife and son now and is very busy. But we both refer to each other as best friends and I could trust him with anything.
On the other hand, there are a couple people I know who text with me almost every day, sometimes several times per day, and I would hardly call them anything more than an acquaintance, though they are fun to text with.

The measure of friendship is in quality and depth, not frequency.