I need help understanding social cues

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Hello,
I have been having trouble with understanding social cues. The main things I don't understand are when people laugh at me I seem to mistake that as them making fun of me and I ask them and they say they aren't but I don't know why they are laughing. I mistake it as bullying because in college people laughed at me a lot and I didn't quite know why and I was too afraid to ask them because I felt like they are being mean to me. The other thing is people reject me a lot and called me weird and I don't know why this is happening and I am just being myself and they judge every move I make and I don't know why they are doing this. Also I feel criticized a lot too. I am so confused. It must be how I act or something. But I feel like I act like I am fine. They there this other thing where this one person said I was bad at relationships I don't know if she was talking about me or not I admit it and I don't know where this is came from I thought she was talking about herself but it bothered me because I have been rejected so many times I was beginning to wonder what is going on. I try my best when it comes to relationships. But maybe I was just dealing with real jerks? I try to tell people things to their face but they blow it off. I really hate that and I don't know how to stop it. I have Asperger's and all but I don't tell people because I don't want people to reflect on that and I don't know what good that would do. I admit it does hurt me I was rejected so many times and when I am not even doing anything to anyone. I am wondering if they see things differently that I don't see. I went online other places to get help with trying to understand what people are doing and they told me not to understand it and it made me feel like I was doing something weird by asking. I feel like I am treated like a weirdo like it started in college and it never ended. Now my family does it and I never saw them behave this way before. People also tend to treat me like I am a problem for some reason. I feel like it is best to be alone and be with people who don't know me. Also people have commented on my tone saying I am rude or mean but I am not even doing that. I do speak monotone. So maybe that is it. They think I am always upset or angry. It is extremely annoying! This is regarding relationships but I thought I was doing really well but then someone has to come and complain about me for some reason. Like I have been called "stupid" "weird" and "annoying" and I never knew this was normal and this hasn't happened to me before and I just don't know how to deal with it the proper way. I thought I communicate really well and everything. I do repeat words a lot when I am nervous but it might be something else that is causing it. But one person thought I was really annoying but I can't help it and I didn't realize it and then she kept on being mean to me. Sorry for rambling on. I was wondering if there is anyone out there that can help me out and maybe that knows what I am going through.

I still have people making fun of me.....is it any wonder I don't want to go anywhere?

I have trouble telling when people are laughing in a condescending manner, laughing to make fun of me, or laughing because I really did say something funny. People can be so mean.

That laugh....makes me want to slap the sh!t out of them!

Keeping quiet is far better

Yeah, I can relate to everyone here so far that has replied. I am just better off not trying to talk to people because they misunderstand my intentions. I don't get people nowadays. They weren't always like this. Also I feel like I get lied to a lot I think well that's what it feels like. I am glad I came on here and I'm glad I can find people that have things in common with. Yeah I feel like why bother talking because they flip out and accuse of things you weren't even doing or they get their feelings hurt. That is what I see on my end though. I don't know.

NTs tend to read into stuff you say....that's not even there. No thanks.

There is nothing wrong with you. Sometimes some people don’t like that you’re different. They can’t come out and say that so they treat you badly. You need to surround yourself with new people. I’m lucky. My family has never treated me any different for the most part.

Fortunately I can tell the difference between people laughing with me and people laughing at me. But I always think (female) strangers are laughing at me when I'm out, even if they're laughing amongst themselves. It's just that a lot of women have high-pitched laughs that feels like a giggle aimed at a person, even if it's not. But if I know them and they laugh, I instinctively know that they're not laughing at me. Strange how my perspection of people changes depending on how well I know them. It's like I see the actions of strangers as a threat.