ironpony wrote:
Not sure if this is the right forum for this, but I have a friend who would tease me for not knowing things about the world that most people know and she would just tease me and make fun of me because of living under a rock, or what not.
But lately for the past maybe three months, she has gotten quite snarky with it, like she would tease me with it but she would tease me in a way, in which sounds snarky to me like she is judging me or something.
I asked my gf who is always with me when I am around my friend, and my gf said she completely agrees and sees it that way too. My gf described it as, whenever she teases me about it, she slows down her voice and talks to me like I am dumb, as if she needs to slow down her voice for me to understand her properly, and it sounds more condescending when teasing, my gf said.
I feel that her teasing me with the change of tone, compared to before, has been going on for the last three months maybe, and it has happened around the same time she started hanging out with me and my gf, where it was just me before.
However, the timing may not have anything to do with it, and maybe just be a coincidence. I am just merely trying to guess what is different compared to before, and me having a gf is different. But that might not have anything to do with it at all.
I also have been suffering from insomnia issues a lot lately though, which could very well have something to do with me why she is interpreting me differently since my brain has been dead a lot lately.
But what do you think, or how should I approach this, if her possibly being more judging, is true?
That sounds like a toxic friendship where she is constantly picking on you about changing rather than allowing you to be yourself or accepting you for who you are. She also doesn't sound like a good friend and especially if she keeps talking down to you like that. It may be time to start learning how to assert yourself with her.
You can say things to her like "When you talk to me like that it makes me feel uncomfortable," or "That really pushes my buttons when you talk down to me like that, please stop." Finally, another one you can do is tell her, "I get what's going on around me, I'm not dumb." If she can't handle you pushing back then it's time to consider whether this is a friend that you want around because I find that people who act like that enjoy controlling other people.
I know if someone did that to me, I am the type of person who doesn't put up with people thinking they are superior to me because I have a disability. I am not going to be submissive.
12 Nov 2018, 3:04 am
