Giving up on trying to have friends altogether

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Unless your new friend happens to be someone who also has only a few friends to begin with.

Perhaps you could eventually meet some people from WP?

To make that more likely to happen, I would suggest including your approximate location in your profile. Also I would suggest posting about your hobbies/interests in the appropriate "Topical Discussion" areas of WP.

I'm sorry you feel this way though to be honest i understand you. Sometimes i think we need to try to find other things to satisfy our emotional needs.

Not all of us are so unsuccessful at making friends. I had nobody I considered a friend during childhood, but began to learn to make friends in high school. I see no reason for any of us to give up on making friends -- we just have to learn how.

You mentioned here that you are a conservative Christian. Perhaps it might be good for you to start a thread with the title "Making friends among conservative Christians?" asking advice from the relatively few conservative Christians on this board regarding how to make friends within your religious subculture, whose social rules are probably a bit different from the social rules of both your country's mainstream culture and other religious (and non-religious) subcultures.

I did have one "friend" from here who I've since had to cut ties with due to not wanting to be a strain on their mental health(I never met them in real life and was basically an internet friend).

Another thing you might try:

If you live in the United States, Google "Autism Society" followed by the name of your state, to see if there is a nearby chapter of the Autism Society that has a support group for adults on the spectrum. (Some chapters have such a support group, others don't.)

Been diagnosed with Asperger's for 10 years nearly I have one good friend have known her for nearly 10 years and couple of other friends but none of them are close friends really.
Haven't made a friend in many years. I don't gel with females due to few interests, no interest in dating or relationships (identify as asexual aromantic) and not into fashion either. These are topics females like to talk about. I am not able to read body language or social cues very well either.
I have become apathetic to having friends apart from seeing my friend once a month I go to meetups but am going to be living alone my brother moving in with his girlfriend. My job keeps me busy.
However having no close family or friends, no partner and living alone I enjoy my own company and am a loner. It doesn't bother me really mostly happy most of the time.

It is a good thing to have friends but the cost benefit analysis is different for everyone

The cost benefit analysis is not worth it

It's not that I gave up on friends. I gave up on seeking friendships. I'm not eager to have "some super-cool person" among my friends because, it makes no difference to me. When new friendships happen, that's okay.

Hey look. You can give up if you want to give up. No one can tell you what to do. However, you should never feel like you have to give up on this! You can try online, offline, ASD support groups, special interest groups, churches, highly structured activities like volunteering, you can systematically experiment with different solutions to your social problems and see if they help, try CBT, DBT, pen pal programs, talking to the elderly, talking to people on Omegle, or going to a shelter and befriending the cats. There are seven billion people in the world, meaning that even if you are only compatible with a teeny tiny fraction, many *millions* of them would love you if they met you in the right circumstance.

A friendship is good until it is bad and then it is permanent

Precious lil "people" change. Better or worse.

It could be my fault, their fault, both or neither

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Every situation is different

Balance this and balance that

Always have to be "on"

Positive, smiling, laughing, paying attention

But when I am alone, prefer moping

Serious

Feeling down is not a felony

No facade required s**t

Always have to think about what someone else is thinking or feeling

Not compatible

Compromise this and compromise that

Sometimes compromise is good

But usually I am the only one compromising

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