"I'm Upset With You" vs"Busy" vs"Don't Want Talk To You"

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Because "Upset With You" can mean explaining, a change in behavior, or being nice to the person, "Busy" can mean "let's talk later" and "Don't Want To Talk To You" can mean "let's talk socially very little". But the signals are often similar- abrupt responses, body language seeming "unfriendly".

There are some tells. If someone *starts* a conversation with you, it's likely not the third one. Asking sometimes yields information- the quality of the information seems partly dependent on whether the way I ask the question seems calm and friendly or distressed, which is not always under my control.

Does anyone have any insight related to this?

It seems reasonable to me, absent evidence of something else, to default to assuming the signs may be caused by the person feeling I am being unfriendly towards them, and see if being friendly helps.