How to stop doing irrational things?

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This is my first time on this website, and forgive me if this isn't the correct forum for making this post.

I always do stupid things without thinking, that have caused me a lot of trouble. I used to attack people physically when I would see them littering or doing anything that I dislike. I have shouted and insulted teachers in school and college. I seem to have no restraint. Recently I committed a really stupid crime without thinking. I'd rather not go into the details, but it was something that just started as a joke but aggravated into something very serious. Somehow the people affected decided not to press charges, but everyone around seems to despise me, and I feel that I have caused great dishonour to my family. I don't know if I'll ever recover from this episode.

I've done various irrational & impulsive things throughout my life a lot of which I regret. A lot of it was me overreacting or reacting inappropriately for the situation. I think there were a few factors at play. I have a lot of various mental & physical issues besides Aspergers that others were not fully aware of, let alone understood. As a result I either did not know how I was supposed to act in a situation or I could not act appropriately due to having various needs. I was bullied a lot when I was a kid & some of my peers intentionally provoked me so I would react & then I'd of corse get in trouble for reacting. There's lots of double standards in society where certain people can get away with most anything & others can get in trouble for most anything they do or not do. Being on the spectrum or having other issues can sometimes make us very low on the hierarchy totem-pole. Another big reason I acted or reacted is due to my emotions getting the better of me. Sometimes things will keep building up for me like stress & I'd eventually reach a breaking point. Other times I'd have bad history with a person or a situation or I'd see a person & situation from a different perspective that others don't & I may feel a need to take a stand for or against something/someone. Lots of times it was a combo of reasons for me. I'm a lot better than I used to be about things. I understand some things better due to learning, growing, maturing, experience. I'm in an environment that is better for me. I also tried to work on myself & figure out what some of my issues are & how I can better work with them or around em. I'm also on psych meds that help keep me a little more stable. Like treating my anxiety & OCD some as well as being on an antipsychotic helps me.

I don't know how old you are, what various issues you have, & what your environment is like for you so I cant really offer specific advice but realizing you do have issues is a great 1st step. When I was a kid & teen I knew I had problems with others but I kinda blamed them & felt they were the problem. I was still kinda like that with my parents in my 20s as well. Some general ideas I have are for you to try & relax some. Figuratively beating yourself up won't help. Instead try to see if there is some kind of way you can help rectify the situation. Also try to see how you can prevent a similar occurrence from happening. See what you can learn from the situation. If the joke was due to you being upset with someone(like a practical joke where you wanted to get em back for something) or it was some big thing you did, perhaps you could try to think things over a couple days before making big decisions or doing things cuz your upset. Maybe you can modify your environment some or do little things where you can wind down & distress & relax so life won't get you down as much. Also Welcome to WrongPlanet. This forum has been a great resource for some of us including me. Explore some of the different sections & see if there's any posts you want to rely to or get some ideas about whatever. Things are a lot slower on here now thou than they were when I signed up 10 years ago but it's probably like that for internet forums in general with the rise in social media.