Hi there, Antigone.
One of the moderators of this site is an adult aspie who lives in Rochester MN. I live in the Twin Cities.
The other mod has mentioned that he is aware of some support groups for parents in his area. I will call your post to his attention and ask him to responde.
My little aspie turned 12 last Jan. Today was the first day of school for him. Middle school is not a pretty sight....sigh....
BeeBee