Embarrassing yourself calling people out

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Hi:
I was wondering if anyone in here would like to share their moments where they let their honesty get the best of us.

For example, when I was 8, I was at a lumber store with my mom one time and we were in check out. Another lady stepped into the line behind us. In her hand was an opened candy bar. Though I did not know her situation, I started telling my mom that the lady had not paid for it. Though my mom asked me to stop, I kept going before that lady said,

"I'll do what I want to do, you just mind your own business,": So I looked at her and said "Yes," before she started eating the candy bar right in front of my mom and I.

Anyone

I don't think that's that embarrassing for an 8-year-old.

The reason why I bring it up is because we our too honest for our own good and it gets us into trouble.

Another example- When was 25, I happened to be on vacation with my aunt at a timeshare on a beach. One of the house keepers was on the spectrum as well as her son, who she was trying to set me up with. Though my aunt and I wanted to invite him to do some of the on-site activities with me, the staff and their families were not allowed.


Being me, I decided to put some comments and suggestions about that being unfair upfront. When I told my aunt, she was very upset. She said I was
1. Breaking a confidence

2. Since the timeshare was under her name, that was her place to make those comments, not me.

I remember one particular time I embarrassed myself, I was in my late teens. At an optometrist’s to get an eye exam done. My mother insisted that I get it done at this particular place, and get my frames at a different location down the street where they were significantly cheaper. When I saw the optometrist that day, she asked me if I was going to be choosing a pair of frames. I responded with, “No, I get my frames at the place down the street actually, the place called-” - to which she gave me a mean look and cut me off with, “Oh, is that so? I think I’ve heard quite enough from you.” .... so I s**t up for the rest of the eye exam. When I told my mother about this, she scolded me and said “You should know better.” These sorts of situations happened VERY frequently in my teens (not so much now) and lowered self-esteem and self-confidence. I still frequently doubted myself in social situations because I dread the embarrassment that comes with my lack of filter / excessive honesty.

A few other times

Once when I was at a black-tie affair, which I had been at a few times before, I remembered a dress that an executive director was wearing for the first time. A few years later, a close friend of hers was wearing this same dress.
Being that I had an excellent memory and her knowing I had autism, I brought up to her in front of this friend.

"Hey, my favorite dress is the one your friend is wearing. If I recall you wore it a few years ago."

She got very upset and said "That's not appropriate, you can say nice dress but that's it," and then stormed off.

Then there were a few times where I said things that upset a few females who were friends of mine during two different times in my life.

A. When I was 19, a childhood friend was trying to get back together with her ex-boyfriend and wanted them to be alone when I went to go get some concessions. On the way out I said, "Hey, go make out." throughout the movie and after the film, she said, "I'm mad at you."

B. When I was 27, I was meeting another former close friend's husband when they first started dating. Though I didn't much about the unwritten rules of dating or relationships, I took one look at them and basically told them to get married. This former friend had always been jealous of me and was scared that her husband liked me and instead of her. Later on that night, I asked her if she was having a good time only to have her throw her purse in her husband's car. When I asked her what was wrong, she said that she didn't think it was appropriate to tell them to get married when they were dating.