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29 Dec 2020, 8:57 pm

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Making friends... Something in common. Do you like trains? Of course, everyone likes trains! :D


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29 Dec 2020, 9:02 pm

Bellis1717 wrote:
I know this is one of the most common complaints within the ASD community - but I have the hardest time making friends - and getting anyone to stick around for more than a couple of conversations. I am a nice person but just sooooo awkward! I cant maintain a face to face conversation for more than a few minutes, even with my therapists lol.

Any other social starved aspie's want to be friends, feel free to message me :)
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I can't hold eye contact with my therapist. I also have no idea how to maintain a conversation. I want to make friends too. Welcome to Wrong Planet. Hello



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29 Dec 2020, 9:25 pm

Welcome! I'm not good at making friends either. You could try posting about your interests in the topical discussions.



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01 Jan 2021, 10:44 am

Steffipanda wrote:
Bellis1717 wrote:
I know this is one of the most common complaints within the ASD community - but I have the hardest time making friends - and getting anyone to stick around for more than a couple of conversations. I am a nice person but just sooooo awkward! I cant maintain a face to face conversation for more than a few minutes, even with my therapists lol.

Any other social starved aspie's want to be friends, feel free to message me :)
(I hope its ok to post this here)

I can't hold eye contact with my therapist. I also have no idea how to maintain a conversation. I want to make friends too. Welcome to Wrong Planet. Hello

Eye contact is a critical thing if it comes to make friends. Have to control my emotions and feelings to stay positive or neutral if doing it. I know that people realize my emotions because of my grey eyes very well and in case of eye contact they always assume it being emotions towards them. I dislike eye contact towards the ones I totally dislike except they have to get out of my way for not becomming beaten up. NTs care the emotions in your eyes at the very first look at you. They get your emotions because of mirror neurons which cause them to share your emotions by feeling pretty the same. For this it turns into kind of a sharing of the same emotions. So it's a good idea to keep kind of a good mood if looking into the eyes of people despite of the way that you may be thinking about them. Because of your 'positive feelings towards them that causes them to feel positive towards you it's also a way to make them wanting to become your friend.

An overly questioning look of your shrink can turn into a problem for you if you dislike to share your emotions.
On the other side is keeping up a good mood if looking at people and especially if catching up their first look at you a good way to cause them a positive feeling towards you and to like you. Most women make eye contact to man only very short at big distances (because they may take it at interest) or they do it nonstop while talking to them. And they do it randomly towards other women they count as friends because it seems to be fun to them to share their feelings about people and happenings around with them and noticing them feeling the same. But of course that is rarely the intention of your shrink towards you.


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