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Any other extroverted autistic people here?
Yes, I am 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
I’m an ambivert 50%  50%  [ 2 ]
No, I’m introverted 50%  50%  [ 2 ]
I’m unsure 0%  0%  [ 0 ]
Total votes : 4

GeminiSagittarius
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16 Jan 2021, 5:56 pm

I wrongly thought I was an introvert for a very long time, but I was just frustrated with people, because I’m always misunderstood, therefore I feel like people just don’t understand me, don’t relate to me at all.

But I do want human connection (other than my husband) but I don’t know how.

I really don’t know how to make friends that don’t suddenly stop liking me for no reason at all. Trying to find people that don’t see me as an alien is a huge struggle.

Whenever I say something it gets misunderstood and sooner or later people backstab me, throw me away like some trash or create drama for no reason. Could this be related to me being autistic, ADHS and an HSP?

My entire life I tried to figure out what I’m doing wrong, but I never found it out. It just created a lot of panic, overthinking and strong social anxiety. And some of the people were just jerks.

Now I’m really afraid that if I try it again, it will take a toll on my mental health again, because there were so many really huge and bitter disappointments.

But I feel really isolated, except that I have my husband and our animals. We have some friends, but we’re not extremely close and haven’t seen them for over a year, because of COVID-19.

Unfortunately I’m a big talker. I always wanna talk, I always need stimulation, very novelty seeking (I guess that’s to some degree my ADHD), but the boredom and isolation suck a lot.


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02 Feb 2021, 2:09 am

GeminiSagittarius wrote:
I wrongly thought I was an introvert for a very long time, but I was just frustrated with people, because I’m always misunderstood, therefore I feel like people just don’t understand me, don’t relate to me at all.

But I do want human connection (other than my husband) but I don’t know how.

I really don’t know how to make friends that don’t suddenly stop liking me for no reason at all. Trying to find people that don’t see me as an alien is a huge struggle.

Whenever I say something it gets misunderstood and sooner or later people backstab me, throw me away like some trash or create drama for no reason. Could this be related to me being autistic, ADHS and an HSP?

My entire life I tried to figure out what I’m doing wrong, but I never found it out. It just created a lot of panic, overthinking and strong social anxiety. And some of the people were just jerks.

Now I’m really afraid that if I try it again, it will take a toll on my mental health again, because there were so many really huge and bitter disappointments.

But I feel really isolated, except that I have my husband and our animals. We have some friends, but we’re not extremely close and haven’t seen them for over a year, because of COVID-19.

Unfortunately I’m a big talker. I always wanna talk, I always need stimulation, very novelty seeking (I guess that’s to some degree my ADHD), but the boredom and isolation suck a lot.


I’m sure that your husband loves you and is there to support you - you both know each other well and I’m sure he could give you great advice on the best way to make more friends. :D