nick007 wrote:
Is your "friend" on the spectrum Summer? He sounds kinda like one of my girlfriend's relatives who's been diagnosed with Aspergers since he was very little. He's very controlling & needs everything his way because anything unexpected will throw him for a MAJOR loop. He majorly hates being alone but he is unable to accommodate anybody in his space. The only people who can stand to spend time with him are a couple family members including my girlfriend. He's very manipulative to get his way & when his support family member gets upset with him & leaves him be for a while, he will b!tch about them to my girlfriend. He seems like a covert narcissist but he has had lots of Aspie issues growing up like various sensory issues, need for routine & predictability, problems understanding nonverbal body language & tone of voice to name a few things. Growing up with him is probably a big reason why Cass can handle living with me so well. I'm very far from perfect but I am a lot easier to live with than him because I really try to be accommodating of her. Most anyone else would find me too difficult though. If your "friend" is anything like that, I think trying to set some boundaries is a very good idea. Setting boundaries is something Cass majorly struggles with. She's used to being guilt tripped & manipulated into putting her needs last.
I don't know if he has on the spectrum, rather he has a medical condition along with having a serious issue with drama. He lies all the time and from text messages that I have seen, he writes up these annoying sob stories.