Summer_Twilight wrote:
I think some examples:
1. If a colleague invites everyone but you out to lunch or to a party at their house -
2. If you live near family members who have decided they don't want you over and even if it's the holidays
He is suggesting that you don't need to confront these people or convince them otherwise because chances are there is a reason you are not meant to be with them because they maybe engaging in activities that could get you into trouble later on.
I know what he is talking about, I was rejected by people who I thought were great but they turned out to be people who
1. Lie all the time
2. Engage in criminal activity
3. Use drugs
Usually the answer to that is cliqueness. A couple of years ago at work there were 5 people my age (4 guys and 2 girls) and they often did things at the weekends but never invited me, even if I hinted that I was interested in some of the things they were doing. It did hurt me inside and made me not want to work with them any more because all they did was make these arrangements in front of me and then chat about it after the event, and I just couldn't help but feel left out. It's hard to deal with when you're naturally a sociable person and you're good at masking and you show that you enjoy being around others.
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29 Jul 2021, 5:18 pm
