How to find balance?

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As I recently talked about in the Haven, a lot of my friends, who are also autistic have lots of other friends through clubs and organizations.

However, I am trying to make more of an effort to reach out and see how they are doing more often while not trying to chase them. I would like to reach out more and ask how they are doing as well as communicate which I have not been making an effort on. That said, I have found myself chasing after other people in the past which I don't want to do.

Meanwhile, I would like to try joining some of the clubs they are a part of.

So how do I find balance with friends?

Do their social lives revolve mainly around these clubs and organizations? If so, that might explain why they just don't have much time and energy for hanging out with someone who is not part of the club/organization. (I myself tend to be like that.)


I would suggest that you join only those clubs/organizations that interest you for reasons OTHER than just the fact that your friends are there. If your ONLY reason for joining a particular club is to be with your friends, that will likely make them feel like you are "chasing" them or just tagging along. It's okay if the presence of your friends is ONE of your reasons for being interested in a club, but it shouldn't be the only reason, and your friends shouldn't be the only people you pay attention to when you go there.

Hi Mona:

Yes they don’t have much time to hang out because they are a part of these other clubs.