I hate being reminded that I have autism

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Mine is less about being reminded of the diagnosis.

But more like the diagnosis overshadows something undiagnosed within me.
I have issues that cannot be explained by autism. Though autism may be the reason why I couldn't explain it.

And those issues are both physical and mental. Something is just wrong, I just do not complain about it.

I just thought certain struggles were 'normal' in my case. Yet no one had considered that I may or may not be also sick in some way. So others just thought it's just that I wasn't NT and that was it.

But no. I'm coping with something else.
Something just dwindles. And it's not getting better. Because it may not be something to 'outgrow'.
It may explain why me 'coping with autism' isn't enough.
Something else is left untreated, unacknowledged.

Heck, the ENT was baffled and asked 'How did you got through with this chronic rhinitis from age 5 to 24+?'
How did I even got through all that without a damn break from it, without a room or a space to control and let alone figuring that it's about humidity and temperature patterns??

How did I got through with this low grade headache that I've never complained about for years (over a decade) until this surprise dental check-up and procedure, that it just disappeared??

Why not with something else as well?

This year, that would be my goal. I wanna know 'why'. So I saved up enough for it.
All I need now is a schedule that matches up with my mom and a reference.
But if that won't happen AFTER my 28th birthday, I'll do it with or without someone's aide. I had enough with years of putting up with another damn 'years of waiting'.

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Super hard to response when our nervous systems are activated, but here are some "scripts" that could help if you can take a breath and get them out.

“Well part of the problem is that you have autism so you sometimes engage in this or that behavior.”
I know you want to help, but that is statement hurtful for me. What is a suggestion you have... could you be a listening ear... What I could use right now is comfort....

“Well you have autism so you don’t know how to socialize.”
I have Autism so I socialize differently. [Cactus style, while the person you are talking to is probably more fern or **mold** style --- less watering, versus more watering and **festering** ] Accommodation of communication styles and abilities goes both ways.