Is there a link between born premature, social ineptness

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i wish i could fit more in the title for the thread, but sadly i couldn't.

I feel i should include, does being born premature increase the risk for someone being born with autism? also, i think a person can still be born with autism and they had a normal pregnancy, gestation.

But also, i wonder if there is a link between premature birth, and it affecting a persons mental and social development, affecting a persons ability to socialize and connect with others, can make a person do poorly in social situations, even though i feel reluctant to use this word, because unfortuneately, i don't want to feel like i am bringing people down, insulting them, but making them mentally and socially ret*d.

I am bringing up this question because, i am in contact with someone who is autistic, he claims he has high functioning autism, aspergers.

For most of his life, he had no friends at all, says he didn't really have any friends at all until he was 28, and he was bullied a lot in school growing up, people called him ret*d. He has some friends now though, but unsurprisingly, no shock, he has never had a girlfriend before.

However, the sad, unfortunate incident in his life that he disclosed to me, told me about, made me feel really sorry for him, he told me that he had a negative, bad experience with a girl back when he was in college.

He told me that a girl got a restraining order on him.

Here are the details of the story of how it happend:

This is all that he told me, he said: "when I was 23 and she was 21 and her name was Carly and she told me that I can come over after class with her and her guy friends every day, and I did that, and her and her guy friends that thought I was annoying, got a restraining order on me, and plus I gave her Pokémon cards for her birthday since I’m a nice man, and she told the dean that I’m creepy and everyone on the school in Florida made fun of me and called me a weirdo stalker and I’m dangerous and I had a mental break down, and got expelled and went to the mental hospital in Chicago."

Unfortuneately, since i wasn't a witness or didn't see what happend to him in person, its difficult for me to know what it is that he did wrong socially.

Nevertheless, i couldn't help but feel very sorry for him, but my guess is, since autism makes it difficult for people to read social cues, body language, or peoples non-verbal hints, my guess is, he failed to read, understand the early warning signs in which that girl, those people, no longer wanted him in their presence.

His story made me feel sorry for him, because there are no doubt lots of times for many people there, autism or not, in which their attempts to befriend people or be social with people, make new friends, or attempt, try to date/attract someone, ends up horribly backfiring, they get a negative or horrible reaction, they were never trying to hurt anyone, but their social awkwardness or social ineptness, just ends up shooting themselves in the foot.

Anyway, besides him telling me that he has autism, he says as a baby, he was born premature, quite early premature, and it makes me wonder if being born premature is sadly a contributing factor for poor social development, or if it affects a persons ability to connect with others, be social, among other issues.

I haven't researched it myself but I remember seeing other threads here on the same topic. I think there was some research including stats posted in those threads but I can't remember the conclusions. People have also wondered about vaginal vs C Section, post-term deliveries, epidurals, traumatic birth experiences, and other considerations like maternal age and smoking history.

In my case it's genetic. I wasn't premature but my dad was premature, although his would have been genetic too. My son wasn't premature but my daughter was. I'd say they're equally ASD although in different ways.

It makes sense to me, considering it's a developmental disorder. I guess the question is whether or not being born premature with a good outcome (not needing NICU or life-saving measures, having access to incubators and neonates) would still affect the brain's development? My dad was born months early in the 1930s and my grandmother didn't even know she was pregnant. He was kept alive with oxygen from a welding torch and put in their oven at home. The thing is that even his father seemed to be autistic and I doubt he was premie back in the 1910s. If it's true it can't account for all autism, but I'd be curious to see the stats.

I've read some peer-reviewed medical studies on cerebellar defects in newborns being linked to autism. But that doesn't mean all those babies were premature.

Hmm… Most people don’t go to the trouble of getting a restraining order unless it’s warranted. I wonder what all his “annoying” behavior entailed. I can’t feel sorry for him about that without knowing more information.

Being so everything seems to cause autism, I suppose premature birth will too.

I was born a week AFTER my due date, natural birth, no complications.

I came out too early and was put in an incubator, but my cousins eldest who is also waiting to be assessed for autism said his Mum had difficulty when having him and he had to be reduced.
I don't know if there is a link to be honest as the thing with things like this is that if there was a definate link, it would be found out years ago and every single premature or difficult birth would automatically be classed as autistic, but this clearly is not the case, so it is not exactly true.
Some on the spectrum will have come out early or have had a difficult birth, but not all, so there is no defined link that one can say "That is it".

i was born 3 months premature

the doctors thought i had deformed facial features at first but evidently i didnt and never have
(obviously )

and they thought i might not live but i fighted and only turned out autistic

im the only autistic in my family so i think being born premature might have had something to do with it in my case

Premature birth is linked to higher chances of developmental delays, disabilities and health issues that may affect upbringing.

It is a risk factor for disability and death. The earlier, the riskier.

It is not strictly or equally always true.
And it is not limited to social ineptness.


Hm.

Mom and dad in their late 20s.
I was born normally. No complications. Was healthy throughout childhood. Even with all the social fulfillments. Still came out autistic. The only autistic in my family so far as I've known.
Is still playing catch up for the last decade.

Mom and dad in their early 30s.
My younger sister was premature and born through a c section. Had childhood health issues. Usually the shy and emotional type as a kid. Came out NT. Grew up like any other average NT and gotten better.
Currently on going to her second year working abroad and is making more money than me AND my mom.


We're both living in the same household. In the same financial issues.
With near same set of immediate circumstances like how well-connected our relatives are and our cultures.

Only that she's the younger child and I'm supposedly the elder child.

I say, it doesn't matter.


I myself don't even know 'why' I "turned out to be autistic". I do not have that kind of 'story'.

I don't have this family history so I don't know which genes I really got it from. I don't have this tragic history like abuse or something messed up.

I don't have those complications that 'causes autism' which includes being born premature, being sickly or being exposed to whatever.

Not even with what my parents did or did not do, have or do not have.

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The Link Between Autism and Prematurity

ya it won't surprise me if being born premature, is a contributing factor to ones mental development and social development, on how to navigate social situations, understand people socially, etc.