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19 Feb 2010, 9:02 am

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I've always been irritated by the fact that people insist that I was normal yet at the same time theyll get on me for not being normal. It's mentally messed me up. I knew something was wrong with me for a very long time (mentally and socially and emotionally) but nobody, not even my parents who had the signs waved in their face every freaking day, would believe me and would just insist that my behaviors were done willingly.

I used to draw much criticism from my folks because of my stimming, and it was pointless to insist that I really couldn't help it. Once in frustration, my Mother said to me, "Are we going to have to take you to a Psychiatrist for this?", and I replied, "Yes, I wish you would!". She stepped back suddenly and stopped talking. That wasn't the response she was expecting from me. Sometimes I wonder what would have been discovered if she had followed through with that threat.



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20 Feb 2010, 3:05 am

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What my parent's didn't tell me until I was much older was that I puzzled my school teachers because all the aptitude tests showed that I should have been acing everything I attempted, but instead I was an extreme underachiever. I also puzzled my teachers because I acted like I didn't hear well, but on the hearing screening that they did then, I kept demonstrating well above average hearing acuity. I think they all concluded that I was just lazy, or that I didn't care to try so there was not much point in trying to work with me. My parents used to ground me for six weeks when I got a bad grade on a report card. Now that's effective incentive for you; grounding an introvert. I was grounded for most of high school. No one was looking for ADD or Autism, or any other cause for underachievment particularly back then, or at least not in my little neck of the woods. I remember in sixth grade reading about this new diagnosis that was just starting to become popular called "Learning Disability" and pondering to myself, wondering what it would be like to have one, never dreaming that I knew perfectly well what that was like.


This pretty much describes my school life too. I spent the entire year of my 7th grade in detention from a teacher whole viewed it as punishment. I viewed it as a way to escape the usual 7th grade social scene.

My parents did send me to a psicologist for under acheivement. However I never got diagnosed. Atleast not that I know of.



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14 Mar 2023, 9:02 pm

My mother never told me I was autistic until I was 27 when I asked why I was in special ed when I was younger, throughout my life I've thought I was going crazy battling depression, being bullied, and not being able to maintain employment.
I had to find resources to get diagnosed again ...I'm 32 now, and my whole younger years are gone now. I hate my mother for what she didn't do to help me, Even now I had to go out and get the resources to go get diagnosed while I was battling extreme. depression, I now how ptsd too from all the trauma and abuse I've endured in my life from being ostracized.



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25 Apr 2023, 12:30 am

My folks definitely told me when I was 4 years old. My mom and grandma were having some sort conversation about autism and how I have it while I was in the room with them and then I remember asking them what it was. 4 year old me assumed that autism was just a normal thing that most people had and that those who didn't have it were weird.


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25 Apr 2023, 12:32 am

My parents didn't know.

I told them. :lol:

They knew something was off but didn't have the jargon to describe it concisely since I wasn't diagnosed until adulthood.


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27 Apr 2023, 6:01 am

my parents would not disclose my IQ although my mother told my sister I was a genius. nobody knew about autism back when I was born, diagnosed at age 68 my parents never explained anything, I was always told "you should know". I constantly wondered how I should have known (whatever it was) when nobody told me or explained. ever.


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