Absolutely Humiliated

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I really just scared myself I don't know if this is Aspergers related, It's not that serious my job but I had a hard time keeping up especially on a Saturday, I don't mean to sound arrogant but if us Aspies are so smart then how can a Dunkin Donut job be difficult? I am very hard on myself in all aspects of life, so when I got home I just had a emotional meltdown, but when I get upset my mind is mentally on past traumas, plus being embarassed of not being able to do simple tasks in a fast paced environment, also seems everybody can laugh at themselves or form groups better,

You're human, all humans make mistakes even at the most simplest of tasks. I know it makes you feel stupid but it doesn't mean that you are stupid. Maybe you were just having a bad day.

I know how you feel though. I've embarrassed myself when crossing the road once, because normally I'm very street-wise but, cut a long story short, on that particular day I got confused by a bus and I ended up almost causing an accident with a car and getting myself killed. I was just so focused on what the bus was doing that I suddenly forgot about cars and just found myself walking across the road without looking for cars, and a car had to stop suddenly and the driver blasted his horn angrily at me. I felt so embarrassed, and luckily I was on my way home anyway, and as soon as I got home I had a panic attack that involved crying.

So it happens to all of us. Humiliation is a horrible feeling though.

*Hugs*

I'm sorry you had to go through that.

I've had experiences in which seemingly easy tasks were hard for me because I am not good at figuring out what parts of the task to ignore and which ones to pay attention to, so I pay attention to details that are not immediately important and then it slows me down in doing the thing that is actually urgent in the moment. Maybe something similar was happening to you?

I also know the feeling of being hard on myself afterward. Try not to be, which I know is easier said than done, but try to forgive yourself for making mistakes (or even possibly recognizing that it was not necessarily a mistake, just a different way of approaching the task, which was maybe a less-successful way, but still not a reason to berate yourself).

Fast food and customer service ain't for everybody. I'm sorry this experience is affecting you so much. There's no shame in having big feelings.

What's easy for others is hard for me. What's hard for others is easy for me. Dunkin' Donuts: hard. Assessing 20,000 lines of data: easy. Heck, I had a meltdown at Dunkin' Donuts as a customer (sensory overload).

I personally have refused to even consider working fast food, largely because of social difficulties and some anxiety surrounding being yelled at. Also because it tends to be fast-paced and I'm not fast-paced.

Fast food places are often sensory overload for Autistics.

Fast food work often requires multitasking which is often difficult for autistics.

Fast food work often involves good fine motor skills and coordination which Autistics often lack.