"You're so lagged behind in life, you need to buck up"

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Your narrative gets really confusing in this last paragraph, and kind of paranoid.

It likely is paranoid, but I am sick of deceptions. I try to leave, find another job, but neither the school, nor I, nor the career coach know, what my skills and experiences are. So it is difficult to find a decent job, which is a real challenge or fun to do. The school is playing vile tricks. It doesn't know what I can, nor is it interested. Not only do I say that, my father and the career coach say the same. I told my boss that I am stigmatized, but he blames my career coach.

Without experience, I won't get a job. Without a job, I won't get experience. The school has changed many things behind my back, and if that sounds paranoid, that's true, and so be it.

HMK66

You said you are a polyglot, can you find any work translating things? You can look on freelance websites for translating jobs, there used to be loads and I'm sure there still are.

I started my freelance editing job like that- on a freelance website and gradually collected clients over the years.

Translating could get you away from that school perhaps?

Good luck

yes ive heard similar phrases many times from family, therapists, random family friends, people who say they are my friends etc.

it seems to come down to my life progressing in a way that is not similar to their own therefore it is wrong.

I am interested in languages, but also in traveling, driving a car, composing and listening to music, but I am the most interested in administrative area, an executive secretary in particular.


I was interested in freelance and/or in starting a company myself (the most interesting example is Elon Musk from Tesla), but I lack the guts. I am afraid that things can go wrong.

I also want to apply for a different, more satisfying job, but it can go wrong. A job application interview or meeting, then I am employed. Problems comes up, for which there is no evidence what the root cause is, and I am fired. I wonder whether there can be a learning curve. There is a career coach, but both he and I run into problems because of the school where I work now. I haven't learnt organisation specific things, he and I don't know what I am capable of. We blame the school, the school try to evade responsibilities and move the hot potato to the career coach.

I know there are many people that don't like me - I don't know why (although I try to find out) - and that can be a problem. For starting a business, it is important to know how to solve this.

A multi-lingual secretary is very much in demand! That would fit very well with your skills! You could be a virtual assistant online. Or could you be a driver in some way? A chauffeur?



Well when I talk about my job, what I mean is, I work by myself, for myself, for not much money. BUT, I don't have to deal with difficult people. It's a company of sorts, very minor, but it is much more satisfying than working for other people, who always cause problems.

It's so difficult for us to find a niche that suits us, isn't it. I hope you can find one and it sounds like you'd be better off out of that school.

I think the one statement in this entire thread that resonated with me was THIS:
"NT empathy seems to consist of berating others for not doing whatever it is they think we should be doing."

Yep...true that!! ! They refuse to see things from OUR point of view, b/c we're deemed the great unwashed, the lepers, the mentally ill and marginals of society.

They won't acknowledge that we have an involuntary disadvantage; we never got into drugs or alcohol or other addictions that are part of "normal" setbacks of life. Our setbacks are regarded as unnatural, or the causes thereof at least.

Not that often fortunately.

I used to feel it a lot though when I couldn't help but compare myself to the people I knew from school, in my earlier adulthood when I heard or saw on social media etc that everyone seemed to be doing a lot better in life than me.

Getting my Autism diagnosis has helped free me from comparing myself to others, and probably just getting older has helped in that regard too.

People keep telling me this lately. It's... *sigh* I don't even know what it is. Frustrating? Scary? Worrisome? All of the above?

"What's stopping you?"

I don't know.

I didn't get that one some much. I did get the you just need to keep trying. And, I was never able to get anybody to tell me how many times I needed to try before deciding that it wasn't possible or in what way I should be changing my approach when it wasn't working.

Both of which would have been helpful. I just knew that what I was doing wasn't getting results and that there was no obvious reason for it.

Aha! You quoted me.

What you write is so true- we are 'unnatural' and they are 'normal' and they are not openminded enough to accept that our experiences are valid.