Edna3362 wrote:
Anyone here have those?
Give me a real working and living example -- not just advices and sayings, not just resource links; those are easy to find.
Those can be found around the internet.
I need a real life example -- which aren't easy to find unless there are those super successful ones or overly simplified ones; they likely do not deal with multiple factors of executive dysfunction issues beyond memory and organizing issues.
Better if the result is consistent or knowing how to make it consistent.
Even better if it's not entirely perfect.
Especially while studying and while working.
It can range from carrying a notebook and pen everywhere (then knowing how to make a habit out of it), then writing everything you need to remember down to using apps and rely on recording and have few hours a day of pure organizing...
To an entire workplace being an accountability buddy, to having several boxes of memo pads and paperclips throughout the workplace while carrying some...
It may or may not include sensory soothing and emotional regulatory strategies or equipment, but that would be good to include too, likely just not alone (unless that's all you need to get a working EF).
Better if there are systems or strategies while working dysregulated (may or may not involve meds) -- i.e. during shutting down, while overwhelmed.
I completely get this, I've looked around the net and most of the advice I see being given is absolute garbage. At best, it works for some people, but rarely for me. I wish I could say that you were just different, but that's not true.
That being said, one of the big things that I've tried to do is to stop studying when I notice that I'm becoming frustrated or angry. If you're starting to think about things other than the task in that sort of way, you're better off stopping and spending a few minutes stimming or whatever you have to regulate or yourself that isn't a rabbit hole. As in, no activities like computer games, TV or the internet and set a timer.
Additionally, note cards are your friend. I personally like to use the ones by rocketbook as they're reusable and can easily be scanned into their software. I personally find that writing forces me to be aware of what I'm encountering more than if I'm just listening or reading.
I'm somewhat fortunate in the sense that I can brute force things more often than I should and have the luxury of forgetting my own advice.
A notebook is not a bad idea, nor is having a phone with access to the book, but realize that unless you're prepared to manage the distractions, that you might not get much out of it.
I've got a Master's in Education Studies and am seriously considering going back for a doctorate in order to study this particular problem as nobody seems to have a good solution. Most of it is just the advice that people hand out to NTs with no awareness that most of us have heard the advice, we've probably tried all of it and it hasn't worked.
IsabellaLinton wrote:
I've never managed to form new habits, ever.
Same here. I have found that I can engage in ritualistic practice, but being triggered to execute the ritual is often times a significant problem and if anything interrupts it or forces a change, it's extraordinarily hard for me to get it done anyways. I thought that was OCD, but I don't usually have the magical thinking of OCD involved or the obsession these days, but the rituals remain key.
02 Aug 2023, 2:08 am
