I May Quit WP

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I find I get more replies if I ask a question like 'Can anyone help me?' People are more likely to answer my post. If I just write a statement like 'I'm not doing well', I don't get so many replies.

If that's any help to you?

People are less likely to respond to something that just appears like a rant or a list of complaints.

People are more likely to respond if you clearly request engagement.

Beyond that, posters don't always have the energy to respond to other people's nobody likes me, everybody hates me, I'm going to the garden to eat worms posts. All the more so if they have responded to the last several examples of those posts from that poster.

If people regularly respond to comfort you but didn't this time it seems more likely that all your friends were emotionally drained this time around than that you suddenly lack friends.

But following up to say you're going to quit because you didn't receive adequate attention this time seems likely to alienate people rather than build additional sympathy.

I've seen this forum as being having no purpose almost since I joined it. Copping sh1t from other members frequently doesn't do any good either.

But anyhow, Funeralxempire does make a valid point though about whinging, and whatever. I think the formula behind reacting to someone who is uptight about xxx, but not enduring obvious discomfort warranting immediate attention is something that is likely to be ignored in a situation where one's 'life' is on the line.

This is possibly due to it provoking an exchange of words (in the rare situation there is literally somebody at hand to talk to), which interferes with the critical situation.

This post potentially would spark a short reaction. But I cannot imagine myself saying this in person in any circumstances whatsoever. This is because my nervosity seems to dominate me, in its effort to restrict/limit my quality of so-called 'life', and do anything it can to put me off. Whilst I'm typing this, I'm constantly reminding myself of my forgetfulness, which ironically causes me to forget what I'm about to type. I don't tend to follow common protocols about writing things down, when responding in this style.

Even catching up tonight with an NT contact who I've known for a bit didn't do much to motivate me. This is because of undiagnosed depression, and possible self hatred, which did reflect in my conduct to a tiny degree tonight. And whilst this can have a flow on effect, I at least acknowledged the blunder to the point where it was seemingly dismissed by this mature adult. This was fueled from an earlier scenario involving naive NT 'neighbours', who have no respect for those in adjoining properties whatsoever, despite being at a mature age. They think idling a 120 decibel death bike (motorbike) for 20 minutes is perfectly acceptable in this environment. Again, this borders on whinging. But it does at least outline what's going through my head a little.

I'm concerned about my physical health, and don't undertake regular blood tests, due to the treadmill I'm stuck on.

I wonder if anybody actually give a rats though. That is the 100 million millionths question.

I did ask for support in my post title ‘I need my friends’ in The Haven.

I love that ‘ we aspies need to stick together’

This One....^^^^^^....

I didn't see your post (I don't think I was visiting WP at the time), but sometimes I will read a post and I just don't know what to say in response. Sometimes if it's a very distraught and emotional post, I feel for the person writing it, but I feel even more at a loss as to what I could say in response, especially if it's something I have not experienced myself.

Sometimes other people's inability to know how to help is all it is. It doesn't mean they don't care.

Sometimes locating Aspies that have the ability to be supportive, can be hard to discern or discover on this here
wrong planet ...It is a big planet . ........imho

When one toxic individual gets on one's nerves, it tends to backfire as though 100% of individuals I've interacted with have. When it occurs multiple times, it becomes more of a nightmare to recover from, and hence you suspect it in everyone. I find it difficult to post anything positive, supportive, contributory/whatever.

I think I missed what your predicament was. But I had a look at your post, and noticed a mention of letting one's guard down, which enabled this to amount to an opportunity for some surplus to take advantage of you.

I too have a habit of ignoring the subtleties, and only reacting when it seems crucial, including in regards to my own health. There's no point attempting to discuss things with me, because I'll just end up being negative no matter what, with near nothing to offset this. But at least you, and other members who might read this venting thread are aware. I wish I could find the cause. But support seems to be minimal here in Australia, due to the fact that nobody has any in depth understanding of folks with Aspergers, undiagnosed ADHD, and ABI combined. It is a living hell. If you don't tick all of these boxes, be proud of yourself, and try and make the most of your existence whilst you still can.

Guys, this is why I say 'I'm sorry you feel like that, I hope it gets better for you soon' when people post they are unhappy.

It is the exact reason- I don't know what to say so I just try and sound sympathetic.

I hope you are okay, Kitty. I haven't really seen you on the forums, recently.

I only post content in the 'Topical Discussion Forums' and the 'Random Discussion Forum.'

I recently made a rare post in the 'Social Skills and Making Friends Forum.'

Hi Kitty, I’m fairly new here, but I would hate for you to leave through not feeling valued. Also, I love the word kitty, I’m not sure why. Maybe because I like cat girls, like you see at conventions or anime.

Hope you’re having a better day today

I'm glad you decided to stay.

YAAYfor the STAY.....