does anyone know how to make frends

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i have no frends and i dont no how to keep a convo at all

More signs that you're likely on the autism spectrum. Autism is chracterized by a myriad of social difficulties, as if the "social circuitry," of our nervous systems' functionality is "switched off." There are countless symptoms, and not everyone experiences the same exact ones - but the major diagnostic criteria involve social deficits.

IMO, you really could benefit from the book I recommended in a previous thread. This one: https://a.co/d/gV9Ew8x

There are video tutorials you can look for on YouTube that teach conversation skills. You might learn some valuable things from them if you don't intuitively know how to keep a conversation going. You might find some tips and tricks to practice and then remember to use in real life. Communications skills will help you get to know a potential friend, and them to get to know you, too.

People typically have the easiest time of their lives making friends when they attend public school, and after high school many say they have difficulty making new friends - even Neurotypical people. I heard on the radio years ago it's because people don't go hangout at the same place everyday as adults like they did going to school with hundreds of other kids. We go to work, home etc. So their advice was to "become a regular somewhere." As in pick a place and people that interest you and start going there regularly and hanging out. Eventually you get to chatting with someone, then someone else.. get to know people - join their social group and make friends.

It's pretty true, IMO. I have tons of friends at the beach.. in large part because I've been hanging out there regularly after work evenings & weekends with all the rest of the near daily regulars for the last 9 years. I have very few other newer friends from other areas of my life.

You'll need some basic communication skills, but if you start hanging out in ______ area/place around the groups that hangout there, it's kinda hard to not meet anyone and get to know them over time. Well, maybe it won't be super easy, but there'll be a way bigger chance than if you Don't go hangout around/with a group of people you'd like to get to know.

I always found that sharing my sweets helped make friends.

For an autistic I think "learning conversation skills" is only a good thing up to a point if you want to make friends. What's the point in getting "friends" if you have to perform and can't be yourself in their company? In my opinion conversations skills is useful in a lot of situations like getting along with co-workers and your boss or making small talk with your neighbour and a stranger on the bus. To make friends I think the important thing is to make an emotional connection. Regardless of the neurotype most people like it when you are genuinely interested in them.

I think it helps to make friends if you look like, behave like and talk like the people who you want to be friends with. People generally like people who are like themselves.

When people say things like "just be yourself" that's absolute BS when you're young because it's quite clear that being yourself has got you no friends.