anybody here get depressed by ppl not understanding u?

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Frustrated moreso than depressed.

sometimes its just not worth the effort to try to educate ignorant folks.

Family members and loved ones may never truly understand. I used Cynthia Kim's book "I think I Might be Autistic, now what" to give to family members to explain autism.

It helped but I have learned we can not expect them to be as interested in our autism as we are or to re arrange their entire lives because things they do/ want to do bother us.

Talking about our autism to others ( or our special interests) is like us having to listen to a long long story about something that does not interest us. eye rolling boredom!

Its OK if they don't "get it". Go ahead and be yourself. You are still you and you are worthy of love, worthy of peace, worthy of respect.

Am so frustrated by it , that I have to give up ....and deal with illogical judgements that have cost me greatly in my life ...even trying to be away from others didnt help...and i tried very hard . unfortunately these people stole the ability to trust away from me .Repeatedly .

I don't expect people to understand me. If they somehow do I'm surprised. I personally don't bother to understand other people either. I can hardly process my own emotions and can't take another person's load.

As for understanding autism. I've given all the people I care about books on autism. Whether they read or understand is up to them.

Now that I think about it, I do get depressed by people not understanding or trying to understand me.

it's depressing sometimes but at the end of the day i realize that i'm not supposed to be for everyone and that's alright, because everyone certainly isn't for me

Yes.
I think it's human nature to need understanding from others, that's how we people connect.

I've been having a lot of difficulties at work and when I talk to my OT about it he always reminds me not to seek or expect understanding from my bosses and colleagues, because I'm not going to get it. But I find it really hard trying to deal with AS at work without that understanding.

It's definitely a constant frustration and I always have to be cognizant that people may have an impression of me that is not reflective of who I am. Instead of depressed I fluctuate between annoyance and resignation.

I used to - before I knew I was autistic. I myself was included in the set of people who didn't understand me!

There are plenty of NTs who don't 'get it', and probably never will. All we can expect is awareness.

I do, particularly when I accidentally do something wrong. I've had to approach interacting with NTs like learning a different language, and I get mad at myself and then depressed when I mess up.