Hate college parties, unlike everyone else I know

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I never attended them. I couldn't see the point.

Nobody will believe me but I swear when I was a student in the 1970s this sort of stuff wasn't happening or it was rare. You can claim this was because I lived in my own world, but I actually did 2 undergraduate degrees and certainly experienced enough parties, and had a number of sexual liaisons so I wasn't exactly isolated. One possibility may have been fewer women in general getting degrees, but in addition, the counterculture mindset simply didn't trend in that direction. The best way I can explain it is, it was understood that if a girl liked you she'd have sex with you. If you had any degree of confidence a girl would like you, you certainly wouldn't force yourself on her. You'd be seen as having a problem whereas it would seem from this thread that in the 80s and 90s rape somehow became mainstream. I do happen to believe that the culture of the Anglosphere did somehow become less mellow around the time Ronald Reagan became US President.

I do know of one specific case of someone who was raped in "frosh" which I will someday talk about in the Adult section, but to me it's still an isolated incident.

BTW I totally believe what people have said in this thread, I'm not trying to invalidate anyone's experience.

I went to a few of these, mostly the parties of friends who were at university (not people from my university), and I was always super awkward at them.

I remember waking up anxious the next day, being embarrassed at any memories I had retained from the previous night.

I don't go to parties, they're too loud, too crowded and it's not even possible to talk.

I never went to a single one. And I don't feel like I missed out on a thing.

(I also wasn't ever invited. Haha. Either no one actually liked weirdo me or I just didn't hang out with a crowd that parties. I like to think more the latter, but the former is certainly possible)