How do any of you react not great to unfair situations?

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When I was on the sidewalk today and some young (maybe someone in his teens or early twenties) guy in a scooter went past me, and he didn't say excuse me I called out to him "Bas****!" He didn't hear me although I know I reacted poorly. If I was more upset I maybe would have said something much worse. Do any of you react poorly to unfair situations?

You should see me when I'm driving. I'll shout more expletives in two minutes than most people utter in their whole lives.
I'm more careful when people can hear me, but I do tend to get very mad in situations like that. Usually I really want to walk up to someone and tell them exactly how I feel, but I don't mostly due to anxiety.
There have been rare times, however, when it's SO bad that I know I would have straight up yelled at a total stranger if there hadn't been someone else there to stop me.
These situations will stick in my mind for days and I can't stop thinking about how that person just walked away after doing that and they deserved to be yelled at. (And when I say yell, I mean yell a logical explanation of exactly why that person was wrong. But still yell.) I know I did the right thing, but some part of me still wishes I had acted differently.
So to answer your question, I do not react great to unfair situations; I react atrociously to unfair situations. But I have precautions to make sure my internal reaction doesn't exit my mouth.

Definitely. It's gotten worse with age. It's definitely something I should discuss in therapy. It used to only happen with people I am close to, but lately I have just been a loose cannon with anyone who irritates me in the slightest.

That depends.

At best, I can just ignore it. I'd be annoyed for a moment and that's it. Likely because I already anticipated it.
I wouldn't care if they hurt someone -- they'd likely be hurt too if they did. Let them be careless.

At worst, I'd be startled, act on reflex, and may violently attack the driver. Expletives won't be enough, I'd commit damage to property and assault.


I'm not sure what my true emotional reaction ranges are now.

The latter is already less likely to happen before the change -- it's not easy to startle me especially in public. My external senses are open enough to sense that someone might be behind me.

Now that I'm way less reactive... Hmm ...

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I thought he went too fast past me. But you're right, I shouldn't assume he can speak.

I agree, using a bell or something like that is always the best thing to do. But in the future, I would probably not yell out the word "bastard." That's a bit harsh. I would probably yell out the words "be careful" instead or "slow down when passing" or something like that, especially if it was a child.

I see your point. I was a bit harsh.