being a recluse

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i spend a lot of time on the internet. but nowadays i've been growing tired of it. yes, it's nice to talk to people in chatrooms, watch videos or find something obscure, but i know this can't go on forever. i know there are so many things to do in the world. so many places to see, people to meet, things to experience but i just don't feel safe going out by myself. i need someone to accompany me. is that embarrassing for a young adult? a young adult that rarely leaves its room and can't go outside without a loved one? my mom tells me that she doesn't want to see me rot in my room. i don't want to either, i promise. i'm just scared of the unknown

Plenty of people addicted to the Internet and don't know it.

The internet has good and bad things about it.

Sooner or later everyone is going to "rot". Whether they "rot" in their houses or outside, they will still rot

Usually expanding your *comfort zone* is a good thing. However, some things are "uncomfortable" for a good reason. Sometimes it takes too much time, money, and energy to expand your comfort zone.

Hikikomori

If you can find a telecommuting job, you might be able to stay in your house for the rest of your life. Telecommuting jobs require a lot of job skills and competition

Unskilled labor such as restaurant retail and sales jobs, don't telecommute (as much)

There is something wrong with everything

Nobody is perfect

Plenty of people, regardless of age, go out in groups. That is not unusual. Not everyone finds the same thing embarrassing.

There are things you "have" to leave your house, in order to accomplish, such as picking up welfare checks, going to work, grocery shopping. But not everyone is on welfare, you might be able to get a telecommuting job, Instacart.

I think it's good to be able to go outside alone and in groups. So you are not codependent on someone else. But you feel comfortable going with someone else.

Doing things, seeing things, cost time, $$ and energy. There are things you "have" to do, that you cannot do without leaving your house. Depending on your situation, that might not be that many things, and you might not have to do them that often. (Frequently intensity duration)