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20 Jun 2024, 4:40 am

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Yes I did. And like specified in the original post, women are already attracted to me. The problem is that when they get close to me then I don't treat them "manly enough" or something.

It's difficult to interpret what that might mean. If you want more specific advice, you might have to explain a bit more about what it is that you think that women find lacking or amiss once you get close to them. You mention that you don't like "manhandling" anyone, but I don't know anyone who wants to be or likes being manhandled (unless I suppose if they have that particular fetish, but I don't think that's what you're referring to).
My guess here is that he does not respond or reacts to to flirting in a typical expected way guys do. Guys tend to flirt & chat back & then ask the woman out. Aspergers can make this process a lot more awkward & confusing. In my case I'm kinda oblivious to flirting, do not know how to flirt, & I'm also very passive in social situations & need others to take the lead with things.


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20 Jun 2024, 1:20 pm

nick007 wrote:
bee33 wrote:
196. wrote:
Yes I did. And like specified in the original post, women are already attracted to me. The problem is that when they get close to me then I don't treat them "manly enough" or something.

It's difficult to interpret what that might mean. If you want more specific advice, you might have to explain a bit more about what it is that you think that women find lacking or amiss once you get close to them. You mention that you don't like "manhandling" anyone, but I don't know anyone who wants to be or likes being manhandled (unless I suppose if they have that particular fetish, but I don't think that's what you're referring to).
My guess here is that he does not respond or reacts to to flirting in a typical expected way guys do. Guys tend to flirt & chat back & then ask the woman out. Aspergers can make this process a lot more awkward & confusing. In my case I'm kinda oblivious to flirting, do not know how to flirt, & I'm also very passive in social situations & need others to take the lead with things.


yeah i always resented taking the lead