Second Puberty

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Hey guys, I need some advice on something.

Since turning 21, I've been noticing some changes in my behavior that worry me. I find myself getting angry over trivial matters, developing a heightened interest in sex, and feeling excessively anxious when things don't go my way. These changes remind me of my father, who had a history of anger and infidelity. I'm terrified that I might be following in his footsteps, and I don't want this to become my norm. I think that I'm going through a second puberty. What do you guys think?

Maybe research some anger management techniques.
Don't sweat the rest of it. You won't end up like your father.... You'll turn out like someone else you don't yet know you dislike.
Treat second puberty as a social enhancer.

I can't say I've ever heard of second puberty so I don't think it's that. It sounds like you are stressed and anxious and that that is causing your feelings. Try to figure out ways to reduce your stress if you can. You could try exercise, meditation, taking time for yourself, walks, bike rides, and maybe therapy. But I wouldn't think you are turning into your father.

might be that the behavior you learned growing up as a kid is not working for your adult life. Learning new ways to cope with frustration, new ways to manage anxiety, new ways to communicate in more healthy ways can all help. I went through my own version of this and getting therapy helped me so much. If we grow up learning only one way to interact with life problems when we are kids, we may need help to figure out alternatives that help us get the job of "adulting" done. Therapy gave me new tools and insights to do life, it saved my life and my sanity. There is no shame in reaching out to get more information to help ourselves live better lives. You are definitely not alone.