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Thanks for showing up here ....and for showing up on behalf of your wife .. Congradulations on finding , what inspite of any issues...Am thinking you might have earned a blessing from somewhere up there .

This could very well work. I think she has a LOT of misconceptions about what it means to be pregnant, how a pregnancy works, how to get support, etc.

As I've mentioned before we need something completely out of the hospital system. A natural class just could work, as she has mentioned wanting a home birth. Remember she has a fear of hospitals, doctors, and healthcare systems. (Should add she was the victim of medical malpractice a few times and a lot of it is because her mother outright lied to the doctors about what was going on, even after she had turned 18; she also wasn't allowed to seek her own care until she met me).

She will need to try again to get pregnant if she really wants a child. That may be hard too because she's a borderline ace. (Which I'm OK with because she's a good person and is otherwise very affectionate, though I'm apparently the only one she's ever been affectionate with...guess I'm doing something right?)

There are different types of natural childbirth procedures. One is called the Lamaze method. It is a childbirth process that taught women how to have babies within their own home. You may want to investigate this process.

One link on the internet says:

The Lamaze method of childbirth focuses on labor and delivery as a natural event. Laboring women are encouraged to move around, if they like, and follow their body's urges to push. The method stresses special breathing patterns and other natural relaxation techniques for dealing with pain. It also teaches participants about interventions that might be necessary so that they will be prepared to make informed decisions.

The Lamaze method, developed by the French obstetrician Ferdinand Lamaze, has been used in the United States since the late '50s and remains one of the most commonly taught types of childbirth preparation. In the early days, the focus was on using controlled breathing techniques to cope with labor. But the vision of Lamaze educators has expanded a lot since then.

According to Lamaze International, the goal of Lamaze classes is to "increase women's confidence in their ability to give birth." Toward that end, women learn a variety of simple coping strategies, of which breathing is only one. The classes aim to help women "learn how to respond to pain in ways that both facilitate labor and increase comfort."

Source: The Lamaze method of childbirth''

There are many different types of Natural Childbirth. We had our two children using The Bradley Method. It worked very well for us and I was present and helped my wife during the birth process.

This link lists some of the different types of natural childbirth.

Natural Childbirth Techniques

Ahh, tryptophan. It's one I'm trying to encourage her to use/eat more of since I know her serotonin is low as per the research I've done. She won't use meds due to bad past experiences (I don't blame her one bit!) but is 100% open to any and all vitamins/supplements.

I know that just having people being kind to you and hugging can increase it too. I think she's been so marginalized by people that she needs more of that. I have some incredible friends for her but sadly some of them live far away or are too preoccupied by things like their families.

tell her that if she ever got drowsy after eating thanksgiving turkey, it was the l-tryptophan in it that did it, most likely.

yes sir, Aspies might not be so eager to have others decide whom their friends might be, but very nice to try to offer for her......Maybe a person with more life experience as a care giver for Autistic individuals ,for help.. There are organizations that can help adult Autiistic persons .

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