People "helping" with puzzles

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If you were doing a puzzle, like a crossword or something, and someone came and looked over your shoulder and started making suggestions on how to solve said puzzle, how would that make you feel?

If I need help I'll ask for it. I do puzzles to use my own brain, not someone else's.

(Sometimes if my dad leaves out a crossword puzzle that he's given up on, I'll write in answers that I know, especially if they're ones I know he won't get on his own, but only when he appears to have given up already.)

I'd rather they asked permission, but I might actually kind of like it, because it's fun to do puzzles as a group project.

I do nonogram puzzles to relax.
If someone is looking over my shoulder, I can't relax.
I make mistakes I normally wouldn't make.
When they offer a suggestion, I can't see what they're talking about because I'm systematic with the solution and I'm not looking at that part of the puzzle yet,
So they keep saying, "there!" Like I'm am idiot.
Then I start to feel stressed.
When I mention this, they get upset.
And they say, "I thought it would be fun to do it together".
It's not fun for me and I just wondered how others feel about it.
I'm probably just an unreasonable a***hole as usual.

It would be different if we started a puzzle together.

It's not good if people interfere when their interference is not wanted.

I found myself laughing reading this and I haven't yet worked out why.

I know it would irk me.
Maybe it was just the idea of someone being able to look over my shoulder.

I'd tell them that I'll ask for help if I need it.

My son likes to “help me” when I do Sudoku. Some times I make a game of it. We will alternate: I will look for a “1” somewhere in the puzzle, then I will look for a “2” and so on. We make rules about not “helping” each other unless asked. Sometimes I ask him to try his own puzzle, i have several books of them around the house.

I don't usually do puzzles. My mom likes doing crosswords but I usually can't figure out the answers at all.

Of course, I sometimes did crosswords when I was a kid at school. They were normally done as a "fun" activity, like being given pictures to color in and stuff. And they were much easier and anything was better than doing math or trying to remember how to spell "restaurant".

My mom used to do the new your times crossword. She had been an English teacher. I cannot spell to save my life. Sudoku is more my speed.