I can love cute animals but I can't love people

Page 1 of 1 [ 5 posts ] 

Puddle of Water
Butterfly
Butterfly

User avatar

Joined: 6 Sep 2024
Age: 31
Gender: Female
Posts: 9

12 Oct 2024, 12:46 pm

I put it down to feelings of love being drowned out by feeling distrustful and afraid of people and generally being avoidant.

Like I still feel empathy and compassion for others but I don't feel affection.

Sometimes I feel admiration for other people but it's very intellectual. Other people can be cool but I don't think I feel care for them.

But I realised I can love cute animals like my neighbor's pet cat. I put it down to cats not being a threat. Also cats not triggering my sensory issues by being loud.

Not really sure what to think of this. Suggests to me that I should work on building confidence or by finding more peers who are similar to me (trans, ADHD, ...) and I have the ability to trust more.

Anyhow I'm not broken or anything I just have a lot of difficulty trusting people so I have difficulty being caring and forming relationships.



pokeystinker
Snowy Owl
Snowy Owl

User avatar

Joined: 1 Mar 2017
Age: 34
Gender: Male
Posts: 147

13 Oct 2024, 12:02 pm

Puddle of Water wrote:
I put it down to feelings of love being drowned out by feeling distrustful and afraid of people and generally being avoidant.

Like I still feel empathy and compassion for others but I don't feel affection.

Sometimes I feel admiration for other people but it's very intellectual. Other people can be cool but I don't think I feel care for them.

But I realised I can love cute animals like my neighbor's pet cat. I put it down to cats not being a threat. Also cats not triggering my sensory issues by being loud.

Not really sure what to think of this. Suggests to me that I should work on building confidence or by finding more peers who are similar to me (trans, ADHD, ...) and I have the ability to trust more.

Anyhow I'm not broken or anything I just have a lot of difficulty trusting people so I have difficulty being caring and forming relationships.


Not like mankind is worthy of love anyway.


_________________
Quote:
I feel like an alien
A stranger, in an alien place.
(GENESIS)


autisticelders
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 23 Feb 2020
Gender: Female
Posts: 2,229
Location: Alpena MI

14 Oct 2024, 6:54 am

great insights here.


_________________
https://oldladywithautism.blog/

"Curiosity is one of the permanent and certain characteristics of a vigorous intellect.” Samuel Johnson


Puddle of Water
Butterfly
Butterfly

User avatar

Joined: 6 Sep 2024
Age: 31
Gender: Female
Posts: 9

14 Oct 2024, 6:52 pm

pokeystinker wrote:
Not like mankind is worthy of love anyway.

We can choose to love regardless.



bee33
Veteran
Veteran

User avatar

Joined: 19 Apr 2008
Age: 60
Gender: Female
Posts: 3,380

14 Oct 2024, 7:11 pm

pokeystinker wrote:
Puddle of Water wrote:
I put it down to feelings of love being drowned out by feeling distrustful and afraid of people and generally being avoidant.

Like I still feel empathy and compassion for others but I don't feel affection.

Sometimes I feel admiration for other people but it's very intellectual. Other people can be cool but I don't think I feel care for them.

But I realised I can love cute animals like my neighbor's pet cat. I put it down to cats not being a threat. Also cats not triggering my sensory issues by being loud.

Not really sure what to think of this. Suggests to me that I should work on building confidence or by finding more peers who are similar to me (trans, ADHD, ...) and I have the ability to trust more.

Anyhow I'm not broken or anything I just have a lot of difficulty trusting people so I have difficulty being caring and forming relationships.


Not like mankind is worthy of love anyway.
Of course it is. Even if you don't believe that people as a whole are worthy for various reasons (wars, conflict, etc.), individuals certainly are.