Not knowing what I am in life

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Hello, this is my first post so please correct me if I’m posting wrong or if there is any improvements I can make going forward.

I found this forum and felt like it would be a great place to learn about myself. I was diagnosed as a kid and went to therapy for the first 18 years of my life.

Recently I’ve been having a problem when going into the work force. I feel as if I am very different from people and people point it out all the time. I’ve tried telling them that I have autism and I always get to I’m just weird or quirky and that my life is too well put together for me to have autism.

Has anyone else had a similar feeling that you don’t belong to either groups of people and if so what do you do to feel less like this?

Welcome to WP!

And I have a different life-path than you and it affects my response to your question.

My diagnosis is Autism Spectrum Disorder, Level 1 (Mild) with an additional note that I also satisfied the criteria previously associated with Asperger's Syndrome.

I got the diagnosis in 2019, shortly before my 65th birthday.

I was born in 1954 and Asperger's Syndrome was not added to the DSM until 1994—the year I turned 40. So, for most of my life there was no available diagnosis for me other than "weird" (or similar adjectives). But I definitely was not like everyone else, I just didn't know what my difference was.

I suspected I was treated differently than the other kids, and a frequent target for the bullies, because of my intelligence—because I could not think of any other reason. (Standardized tests consistently indicated I was more intelligent than most of the other kids in my classes.) I knew virtually nothing about Autism or Asperger's Syndrome; I had no suspicion I was Autistic and if someone had suggested it I would've thought they were either stupid or mean.

It wasn't until I was 64 that happenstances gave me a hint to read about Autism.

The diagnosis surprised me and delights me. I finally understand my life better.

But I got the diagnosis late enough in life that it has had very little impact on my life. The ways that I can think of that the diagnosis has affected me are:
- I understand my life so much better than I did before
- Wrong Planet
- When my bride bumps up against one of my Autistic traits I can tell her:
I have a doctor's note for that!

I have tried to get my various medical providers (I am old!) to adjust to my Autism...but so far with little success.

Depending on what kind of weird you are, you may feel more at home in a community with a higher concentration of the equally weird. I found acceptance for many years in the entertainment industry. Academia and the medical community are places you don't have to mask intelligence.
What are you good at?

While I'm pretty sure Carbonhalo's question was directed to Thegreatsamson, I'll I mention what weird community I was in.

I was educated in computers. I worked in computers. I was in computers starting in 1971.

By the way, the world of computers was way outside the mainstream back then.

Welcome to Wrong Planet!