What made you stop liking someone you were limerent about

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05 Nov 2024, 11:01 am

Limerence is when you have daydreams, dreams and keep obsessively thinking and having feelings for someone usually who you aren’t even dating. They could be a stranger or acquaintance too.

I had a limerence for a coworker for years. At some point, we started being more interactive like being platonically playful (though he has hit on me before). I was expecting us to keep going and getting closer emotionally or mentally. Then for a few days I noticed he seemed distant so I realized he does not emotionally rely on me like I do him. Since then, I’ve finally been able to move on.



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05 Nov 2024, 11:22 am

By realizing that I couldn't date a fictional character!! !

Lol

Also, getting into a real relationship helped me move past that coping mechanism!


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05 Nov 2024, 11:36 am

I've found people very attractive over quite long periods of time until the day I hear their voice and that, very suddenly, is the end of that.


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05 Nov 2024, 12:27 pm

I don't know but i don't think I could see a future with a person if they turned out to have hairy palms

That's just a step too far even for me


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05 Nov 2024, 1:56 pm

babybird wrote:
I don't know but i don't think I could see a future with a person if they turned out to have hairy palms

That's just a step too far even for me


I agree...I could date a gorilla, but not a coconut



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05 Nov 2024, 2:13 pm

I only said it because I used to work in a spinning mill when I was a kid and there was a guy who I got along quite well with and it looked like he had hairy palms because of all the fluff from the yarn and it really put me off him :lol:


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05 Nov 2024, 2:55 pm

physicallycreepy wrote:
What made you stop liking someone you were limerent about?

Seeing them smoking cigarettes.

BIG turn-off!


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05 Nov 2024, 5:09 pm

I had had a crush on the first guy I dated for a long time. Once we started dating, I realized that he wasn’t quite who I thought he was and that we weren’t actually compatible. I was a teenager at the time. I think my idea of him was different than the reality or something like that. We didn’t really interact all that often before we started dating. Maybe this isn’t quite what you had in mind, though.