Have you been in a romantic relationship with another Aspie?

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I've never been in a relationship with another Aspie. I'm curious about how it's been for others who have had that experience. I imagine it could be a much better match, since both partners would likely share similar needs, such as a preference for structured routines, clearer communication styles, or specific sensory needs. It seems like these commonalities could make for a deeper mutual understanding and a smoother dynamic. Has anyone else had this experience, and if so, how did it go?

Also, if you have or haven't do you think you'd prefer it?

No, but I think I'm better off having my complementary ADHD partner.
The whole is greater than the sum of its parts.

Yes. My last relationship was with a scientist that over time, I concluded might be on the spectrum. It is always a risk trying to diagnose others. I would say that I had about 75% confidence. I probably should have kept my opinion to myself, however, but it was not a significant factor in our break-up.

I think such relationships (between aspies) form quite naturally due to sameness. One is more willing to accept the things that one recognizes in oneself. Whereas, the NTs are highly judgemental and regard a lot of aspie traits as weirdness. They are not willing to accept. NTs prefer other NTs in my experience.

My previous marriage was to a high-functioning social operator NT. That is what I regard as the "super NT on steroids." The one that remembers all names, all faces, and job and family histories to the third generation. The one that throws a party, and fifty people show up. That happened a lot at our house, ha ha.