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Crystal1414
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29 Oct 2024, 11:20 am

I don't really know how to. I've had friends before. Just lately I get anxious. I'm at an age where my differences seem to stand out way more. I don't drive, don't work, and don't really relate. I've been told I should try. I struggled even at an event for Autistic people and ended up crying when I got home.

Sometimes when I am being social I kind of want to go home. I get nervous in public or get overwhelmed. Sometimes I take the bus with people and it stresses me out. I kind of want friends but I don't know if I'm ready.



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29 Oct 2024, 12:17 pm

I think making friends and relating to people comes with practice

And if you've been isolated for a while then of course you're going to struggle and possibly fall behind others who are your age

I'm like a child irl so I struggle with adults and adults struggle with me...people seem to want to parent so that's my difficulty

I'm wondering if you can find something for maybe an hour a week as routine and then work on that and then build it up slowly

I mean I dunno really I'm making this up as I write


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Today, 6:37 pm

Crystal1414 wrote:
I don't really know how to. I've had friends before. Just lately I get anxious. I'm at an age where my differences seem to stand out way more. I don't drive, don't work, and don't really relate. I've been told I should try. I struggled even at an event for Autistic people and ended up crying when I got home.

Sometimes when I am being social I kind of want to go home. I get nervous in public or get overwhelmed. Sometimes I take the bus with people and it stresses me out. I kind of want friends but I don't know if I'm ready.


You are not alone. I have had difficulty making and keeping friends my entire life. I don't usually go out and try to make friends. On the rare occasions when I do, it's usually because I find someone very interesting or intriguing and I end up trying to hard and come across to strong and it turns them off. It never gets easier really, but if you want friends, you need to make some effort, but realize that most folks just aren't like us and it may not last long. And that's ok.