Thoughts about friendship

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A friend is someone who is broadly sympathetic and mutually supportive. I've had few in my life and it always turned sour (I sure can pick 'em). My last friend and I pretty much always helped each other out, but I had to get rid of them when they expressed intolerant views around one of my only decent family members. I would say that there is certainly a dearth of friendship in the U.S; no one is an island after all.

I have friends, they just happen to be feline rather than of the same species.

I think that most humans prefer their phone to another human being.

The trouble with humans is there are so many of us, we are everywhere. So most people are actually looking for ways to avoid other humans, not spend more time with them.

I have tried going to church in order to meet people. The #1 thing that happens at church is I get asked to sign up for tithing and money. It happened right away, first time I visited the Unitarian Church. Immediately the Treasurer comes over and starts chatting me up. So the reason she is sooo interested in me is that I tuck my shirt in and have a neat conservative appearance, and she thinks maybe I have a good job, maybe I am loaded. I know churches are in difficult financial straits these days, due to declining membership, so I avoid churches. It seems a lot cheaper to relate with God at home. Anymore, if you go to church, they need your money badly, they are in dire straits. Even the main sermon was talking about the need for the congregation to cough up more money to support the choir's vacation retreat or whatever it was.

I do not know what anybody would want to spend time with another person, other than to extract money. That is the #1 reason that anybody gets with anybody, is money. They will swear up and down it is not so. It is so. You come to find out, they are not so good with money. They may be good at people and figuring out how to get what they want out of people.

The other reason might be sex. Most people do not have to worry too much about that motive. But it is something to consider in the case of younger adults, younger than me. When I was young, definitely people got with me for the sexual motive.