How long does your anger last?

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What day is this again?

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Tuesday 12th November 2024.

I understand where you are coming from. I use my anger as fuel for my creativity side when I can. Some of my best ideas were born from my anger at something, but they can be malicious if I am not careful. There is a difference between anger and rage (directed at someone in particular). I am much more destructive with my ideas under rage conditions. Prolonged bullying puts me into the rage stage, as I had that for most of my youth. I still feel anger decades after certain events have long passed. I can forgive, but it is hard to forget.

Yes. I read that anger, or aggression at least, is psychologically necessary for solving problems. So aggression isn't always the monster it's cracked up to be. I've experienced trying to record a good vocal track, repeatedly failing, and then getting a bit angry, trying again, and getting it right. Something about getting mad enables us to cut through the crap and get the job done.

I think even rage can be a good thing sometimes. If you're being attacked, going ballistic can scare the attackers off. It may be folly to punch above your weight of course, but even there it's surprising how humans can sometimes be shocked into backing off rather than risk continuing into an unfamiliar situation. But the approach can backfire horribly of course.

For me, anger has always been destructive and painful. It has caused me to lash out at people and ruin interpersonal relationships and even jobs, a long time ago. I've never had a positive outcome from anger.

Yeah, I get the full set of lessons around anger and emotions in general. Forcedly. In different degrees, in different states.


It's one thing when it's at a moment or over a circumstance..

A situation, a problem, and then work with a solution or as a response or a warning.
Or something that had or hadn't happened and channeled it into something else.

Like I myself knew how and when anger is an appropriate response.


... It's another when it doesn't even reflect the present, or based on misperception and slights of immaturity from the ego, never went away since childhood and refused to leave past mid 20s.

No suppressions of expressions, no masking, no holding back -- none of that stupid pseudo-stoic repression crap.

Just sheer dysregulation of unprocessed emotions. No flee or fawn, just fight.

Not enough space for almost everything but emotionality.
All because emotions has no concept of time -- all because it happened in a less developed stage of my life and it got stuck there.

Yes, I needed therapy.
No, I solved it myself. It just took almost 25+ years to figure. Again, it is quite a contrast...

I experience anger as distress - it disrupts my concentration, sleep, motivation to eat and routines; it drains my energy.
Forbidden as a child to ever express anger, I internalised it to stay safe. Usually the disruption to my nomal mood an function lasts between 1-3 days.