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11 Nov 2024, 10:36 pm

^I don't think you can have one without the other...


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12 Nov 2024, 10:45 am

Mikurotoro92 wrote:
^I don't think you can have one without the other...

Apparently there are people on the asexuality spectrum who are looking for soul mates but don't want physical intimacy with them. A lot of ASD women would seem to be in this situation.


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13 Nov 2024, 7:26 pm

No and I'm not sure that I want to be in one. Aspies make great friends but crappy partners. I know because I'm an aspie and I'm a crappy partner.


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13 Nov 2024, 7:44 pm

RetroGamer87 wrote:
No and I'm not sure that I want to be in one. Aspies make great friends but crappy partners. I know because I'm an aspie and I'm a crappy partner.


Are you actually a crappy partner, or might this be a self-esteem issue? :chin:



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13 Nov 2024, 8:15 pm

blitzkrieg wrote:
RetroGamer87 wrote:
No and I'm not sure that I want to be in one. Aspies make great friends but crappy partners. I know because I'm an aspie and I'm a crappy partner.


Are you actually a crappy partner, or might this be a self-esteem issue? :chin:


I'm a terrible partner, according to my partner. But maybe I should take her views with a grain of salt.

(also I have pretty low self-esteem)


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Today, 1:05 am

RetroGamer87 wrote:
No and I'm not sure that I want to be in one. Aspies make great friends but crappy partners. I know because I'm an aspie and I'm a crappy partner.



I feel like I am a difficult partner. Lots of miscommunication and sensitivities that send me into meltdowns, which is not fun for anyone.



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So, nobody I've been in a romantic relationship with was diagnosed autistic or ADHD, but I had my suspicions and so did they. In my case the communication issues were compounded. I was bad at communicating. They were bad at communicating. We bad communicated ourselves into breakups. :skull:

I've never dated anybody who was NT to compare so I have no way of knowing if I'd prefer them, but it's entirely possible I'd just bad communicate myself into another breakup. Since I'm the common denominator.


Aw, that's what I was wondering... if the communication issues could be compounded.