Are ruthless guys more attractive than kind, good guys?

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Generalizing, yes, I think that's what he's asking about - if women in general are more attracted to ruthless guys. That individual women's taste differ goes without saying. My advice to any guy is "be yourself and stop wasting time wondering about what women prefer". If you are nice guy, why would you like to engage with women wanting a ruthless brute?

I was especially responding to a specific comment which is why I quoted it.

Some women are attracted to ruthless guys, but I certainly don’t think it’s the majority. We may be more likely to notice/comment on those who go for someone ruthless than a person who goes with a nice guy because it’s more striking. People often like to have conversations that contain phrases like: “I can’t believe she went for him!”

I think we have our definitions of a “nice” guy mixed up. When I say “nice” guy, I’m talking about those who think they are entitled to things from someone (like dates, relationships, etc) because they are being nice to them.

?????? Hmm.. well this does leave me,alittle confused ..?..?...
Guess will need to change my definition of nice guy, to Say someone with an entitled personality type?
Entitled ? predatory ? ? need clarification ?

Then he’s called entitled guy, let’s use the correct adjectives.

There are a lot of variations to what women prefer but generally the more aggressive and ruthless would be deemed the more attractive overall.

It's hard to deny that they usually, but not always, have more success with women.

I don't understand where this notion comes from at all. I have not observed this and it's completely illogical. Everyone wants a partner who is nice and caring and warm. Why would anyone want to be with an as*hole? That typically only happens with people who are damaged in some way and seek out someone who is bad for them. I disagree with this as strongly as it is possible to disagree.

Witness it all the time.

Guess witnessing something like this , it would be directly related to want you were looking for in a relationship....
or am I mistaken , and all these guys are just thinking a "Hook Up" scenario ?

We must live in different worlds because I have literally never seen it, though I did concede that some damaged people might look for the worst possible thing in a partner.

I think ruthless guys probably attract attention from ruthless women in some cases at least. Folk with similar personality attributes tend to be drawn to each other.

Sometimes ruthless people mask who they really are and seek out/actively pursue those who are vulnerable in some way. It doesn’t mean that the person who fell for their nonsense was attracted to the ruthlessness itself. Some manipulative people are good at masking who they really are.

Dynamics like this could be hard to see from the outside which could lead some to believe that specific people are attracted to ruthlessness and aggressiveness, not that a small minority of people aren’t.

Most women are attracted to nice guys which makes logical sense, especially since awareness and concerns about IPV are extremely present in this day and age.