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14 Nov 2024, 11:27 pm

CockneyRebel wrote:
If he's not interested in sex, I would.

If that's in response to me, fair enough. In that case, there isn't really any issue.



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15 Nov 2024, 9:55 pm

Im not saying that man with job responsibility agrees with everyone, but seems to effectively work for most.
So many autistic males had got married as had careers, but meltdowns and family issues seemed to be noticeable issues. I think dating NT complicated relationship, so asd couples can decide if having kids, who's paying.

So best option is to work, live independently and try meet someone via methods work for you.
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Would you rather have an arranged marriage? I think that's how my ancestors reproduced. :)

It's not too bad for men. Just focus on working and making money and women would follow. Men are marrying beautiful girls in their 40s and 50s nowadays. We have a cousin who just married at 46. He's got a cushy job, his own house and plenty of savings. Another cousin who's a medical doctor who married a rich man in his 50s. They have two beautiful kids now and live in a lavish mansion.

Of course I personally don't believe in romantic love. Girls are practical and want to be with successful men.The most warm, charming man I know is always unemployed and he didn't have much luck in love.


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Yesterday, 2:13 pm

y-pod wrote:
Would you rather have an arranged marriage? I think that's how my ancestors reproduced. :)

It's not too bad for men. Just focus on working and making money and women would follow. Men are marrying beautiful girls in their 40s and 50s nowadays. We have a cousin who just married at 46. He's got a cushy job, his own house and plenty of savings. Another cousin who's a medical doctor who married a rich man in his 50s. They have two beautiful kids now and live in a lavish mansion.

Of course I personally don't believe in romantic love. Girls are practical and want to be with successful men.The most warm, charming man I know is always unemployed and he didn't have much luck in love.


Wow, I didn't expect that to come from a woman.



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Today, 2:50 pm

y-pod wrote:
Would you rather have an arranged marriage? I think that's how my ancestors reproduced. :)

It's not too bad for men. Just focus on working and making money and women would follow. Men are marrying beautiful girls in their 40s and 50s nowadays. We have a cousin who just married at 46. He's got a cushy job, his own house and plenty of savings. Another cousin who's a medical doctor who married a rich man in his 50s. They have two beautiful kids now and live in a lavish mansion.

Of course I personally don't believe in romantic love. Girls are practical and want to be with successful men.The most warm, charming man I know is always unemployed and he didn't have much luck in love.


Housing has doubled or tripled from it was 40 years ago in the developed countries, so less young persons can buy a house or it will take until their 30s or 40s to save and work for one. I think there are still people under 30 that own their own house, but I don't know what they are doing different from those that don't have a house, except that they may be super vigilant budgeters. Add other things doubling or more on top of this.

The economy is exacerbating all of it. And since everything is twice or more as expensive, those that make a single wrong budgeting decision can make a mistake setting themselves back big.


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Today, 3:09 pm

y-pod wrote:
Of course I personally don't believe in romantic love. Girls are practical and want to be with successful men.The most warm, charming man I know is always unemployed and he didn't have much luck in love.

Wow, I strongly disagree with that. And you say "of course"? I guess your one acquaintance has been unlucky but that certainly isn't enough to base a broad opinion on. I certainly believe in romantic love and have had two wonderful long term relationships, both with men who were not financially successful when I knew them (one of them died), and I currently have a wonderful partner, who also is not financially wealthy.