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Even when I was a small child I never understood the appeal in marriage

And I understand it even less as I get older

^ Yeah, I never understood it, either.

On a different note, I was just thinking that I’m grateful for some of the awkward things I experienced around dating when I was young. While they were embarrassing at the time, some of it is entertaining to look back on.

In my church, young people would have “get togethers.” The point of them was not just to hang out but to find someone to court/date - a potential “marriage mate.” Anyway, I ended up being the only woman at one of them. It was so incredibly awkward, but that’s where I met my first BF.

There isn’t somebody out there for everybody. Not everybody gets to be in a relationship and some of us are meant to be single forever. You can self improve yourself and still can easily end up being forever single. Most simple platitudes sayings are useless and it would be better off saying nothing.

Unrequited love sucks

Oooh...does babybird have an alternate love interest?

There was a reason why I made that post but it's gone now

My boyfriend will need two weeks in a floatation tank after spending three weeks with me over Christmas and new year

I wonder if this talking stage that I'm currently in is going to go anywhere. Hmm

Love and sex are separate things.  You can have love without sex and sex without love.

=/= ♂♀ or ♀♀ or ♂♂

Who is the lucky woman?

Not much to tell on that front. Early days. Still, I hope something comes of it. I haven't been on a date in ages.

Good luck with it all, in any event, Lost_dragon!

Oh how's it working out for you

You seem to be framing things as though they're pre-determined when ultimately it's a numbers game.

If you take some hypothetical forever alone person and simulate their life a few dozen times, they won't end up forever alone in every single simulation. Sometimes they'll find someone even if it's a statistically rare outcome.

Since you only get to live your life once, if you want to make things happen you need to take the steps required to make those things possible and keep attempting in order to maximize the likelihood of the positive outcome.

If you just tell yourself it's guaranteed to not happen you're really just inventing an excuse to not bother investing the effort. You're entitled to not invest the effort, but that doesn't mean the excuse is more than a rationalization.