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17 Nov 2024, 10:33 pm

The only times I get major breakthroughs so far are moments when I have a less whiny body.

Now, if only that's consistent and happens in long term...
I don't have a real ups and downs, only bodily more fluctuations that adds up to the cognitive load against my will.


I have very few real long term ups.
Usually it involves becoming less reactive and emotional.
And I still want to lose more internal encumbering crap in this body.


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18 Nov 2024, 1:53 pm

123autism wrote:
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Expecting a major breakthrough in life, simply because you feel as though you deserve that, doesn't seem like a particularly good strategy to achieve something.


Expectation is important. Are you saying to expect to not breakthrough?
Does that seem like a good strategy?
Expecting a breakthrough to come your way just because you deserve it seems like a way to arrive at possibly a strong disappointment. We don't get what we deserve, we get what we can luck into, with a lot of effort behind it. Without a bit of good fortune even all the talent and hard work possible might not lead to a breakthrough, unfortunately.



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18 Nov 2024, 2:36 pm

I don't know about a major breakthrough but I'm kind of enjoying what I'm doing atm


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18 Nov 2024, 5:26 pm

I need a break Through ......some kinda break thru .. anykind of favourable breakthrough .... 8O


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18 Nov 2024, 6:15 pm

ToughDiamond wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Expecting a major breakthrough in life, simply because you feel as though you deserve that, doesn't seem like a particularly good strategy to achieve something.

I tend to agree. Apart from cases in which the individual has been underestimating their potential, I don't think that kind of "let's think positive" approach achieves much at all. I think most of us already know roughly what our chances are at getting this or that, and usually plan and work according to such reasoning.

But what do I know? There has to be some reason behind the way (for example) football teams subject themselves to pre-match brainwashing sessions in which they get convinced that they can't lose. Just that personally I can't understand how it could achieve a damn thing. Maybe it's something to do with neurotypical psychology that I don't understand. Or maybe deepdown most of us have such a negative view of ourselves that those little "energising" rituals actually work.

As for deserving a breakthrough, I don't know what that even means. Maybe that's because I'm strongly atheist and don't believe that anybody in the sky has a plan to reward me for all the effort I put in that nobody else notices. If I get a breakthrough, it'll be down to my having carried out prudent plans to achieve that breakthrough, plus a bit of what we call good luck. I only say that I deserve things as a sarcastic device which is intended to parody the unrealistic egocentricity of a large swathe of the human race.

So, strive for your goals by all means. I wish you success, but I would urge you to stay objective and not to expect too much of irrational mantras and magical thinking. Figure out what you can realistically expect to achieve, and what you can't.
I think possitive thinking can sometimes be good because it might make someone more willing to try & give it their best shot. It also might help someone perform better due to acting more confidently, especially if their feeling anxious ie they'll be less likely to stutter or clam up during a job interview. That said, positive thinking in it's extreme form can be very bad, especially when it goes toward thoughts having power. Like when something bad happens to someone it is automatically considered their fault due to them not thinking positively enough & sounds to me like victim-blaming :wall:


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20 Nov 2024, 8:47 am

nick007 wrote:
ToughDiamond wrote:
blitzkrieg wrote:
Expecting a major breakthrough in life, simply because you feel as though you deserve that, doesn't seem like a particularly good strategy to achieve something.

I tend to agree. Apart from cases in which the individual has been underestimating their potential, I don't think that kind of "let's think positive" approach achieves much at all. I think most of us already know roughly what our chances are at getting this or that, and usually plan and work according to such reasoning.

But what do I know? There has to be some reason behind the way (for example) football teams subject themselves to pre-match brainwashing sessions in which they get convinced that they can't lose. Just that personally I can't understand how it could achieve a damn thing. Maybe it's something to do with neurotypical psychology that I don't understand. Or maybe deepdown most of us have such a negative view of ourselves that those little "energising" rituals actually work.

As for deserving a breakthrough, I don't know what that even means. Maybe that's because I'm strongly atheist and don't believe that anybody in the sky has a plan to reward me for all the effort I put in that nobody else notices. If I get a breakthrough, it'll be down to my having carried out prudent plans to achieve that breakthrough, plus a bit of what we call good luck. I only say that I deserve things as a sarcastic device which is intended to parody the unrealistic egocentricity of a large swathe of the human race.

So, strive for your goals by all means. I wish you success, but I would urge you to stay objective and not to expect too much of irrational mantras and magical thinking. Figure out what you can realistically expect to achieve, and what you can't.
I think possitive thinking can sometimes be good because it might make someone more willing to try & give it their best shot. It also might help someone perform better due to acting more confidently, especially if their feeling anxious ie they'll be less likely to stutter or clam up during a job interview. That said, positive thinking in it's extreme form can be very bad, especially when it goes toward thoughts having power. Like when something bad happens to someone it is automatically considered their fault due to them not thinking positively enough & sounds to me like victim-blaming :wall:

I think there are ways in which confidence can be improved to some extent, especially when it comes to particular aptitudes, if the individual has significant potential to improve. But I also think that people are often rather set in their ways. Talk of a "breakthrough" suggests a belief in the "sudden school" of self-improvement. Personally I think self-improvement is more likely to happen gradually.

But then my brain is notorious for being slow and measured. I can't speak for others, but personally I seem very strongly grounded in objectivity, so that I don't take readily to blind faith as a motivator. Once I have strong evidence that a proposed endeavour is unlikely to succeed, I can't un-know that information.



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