Do you expect a major breakthrough in your life

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Expectation is important. Are you saying to expect to not breakthrough?
Does that seem like a good strategy?

I tend to agree. Apart from cases in which the individual has been underestimating their potential, I don't think that kind of "let's think positive" approach achieves much at all. I think most of us already know roughly what our chances are at getting this or that, and usually plan and work according to such reasoning.

But what do I know? There has to be some reason behind the way (for example) football teams subject themselves to pre-match brainwashing sessions in which they get convinced that they can't lose. Just that personally I can't understand how it could achieve a damn thing. Maybe it's something to do with neurotypical psychology that I don't understand. Or maybe deepdown most of us have such a negative view of ourselves that those little "energising" rituals actually work.

As for deserving a breakthrough, I don't know what that even means. Maybe that's because I'm strongly atheist and don't believe that anybody in the sky has a plan to reward me for all the effort I put in that nobody else notices. If I get a breakthrough, it'll be down to my having carried out prudent plans to achieve that breakthrough, plus a bit of what we call good luck. I only say that I deserve things as a sarcastic device which is intended to parody the unrealistic egocentricity of a large swathe of the human race.

So, strive for your goals by all means. I wish you success, but I would urge you to stay objective and not to expect too much of irrational mantras and magical thinking. Figure out what you can realistically expect to achieve, and what you can't.

I think possitive thinking can sometimes be good because it might make someone more willing to try & give it their best shot. It also might help someone perform better due to acting more confidently, especially if their feeling anxious ie they'll be less likely to stutter or clam up during a job interview. That said, positive thinking in it's extreme form can be very bad, especially when it goes toward thoughts having power. Like when something bad happens to someone it is automatically considered their fault due to them not thinking positively enough & sounds to me like victim-blaming

My life over the past several years has seen a major positive breakthrough and lots of change. It'd be hard for me to properly convey all of that.

The breakthroughs I'm looking for right now, though are: A job, an apartment of my own, deciding on my career, and finding a partner.