Struggling to attract women

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It has been a long time since I've last been on WP. I need some advice from Autistic and Aspergian men who are currently in relationships.

I have been struggling to attract women. I have been using the dating apps and attending speed dating events in hopes of connecting to a woman but have gotten zero matches. I have tried flirting with and teasing women and refrained from being logical when conversing with them. In other words, I avoid asking them interview-style questions, or yes-and-no questions. I also try to be a little mysterious by not revealing too much info about myself.

How do you guys attract women? It can be neurotypical or neurodivergent women. What techniques have helped you do this?

Displaying my colorful plumage and collecting shiny objects usually works.

Humor and not take myself too seriously works fine for me. To attract women I have to meet them in person. I am totally hopeless on date-apps or online forums. By coincidence I once met a woman from my hometown in real life that I struck up a conversation with. We got along well and she told me about an idiot she had interacted with on Twitter about the same subject. I realized that idiot she was refering to was me.

The advice I can give as I am experienced in dating as I have dated twice, is do not try to attract the ladies. Ladies are not men. It is a ladies thing to dress and do make-up etc to try and lure men. Is not a thing men do.
I think it is better to try and impress them in other ways like to show them your special interest.

I am into model trains so they may like te idea of that. I don't know how women think, but I know men who dress smart to attract ladies do generally end up with ladies one would not want to be with! (You need ones that will want to stay and not ones who see your trains and then dissapear when someone else has a better train if that makes sense? It often surprizes ladies when one shares ones interest as they stand there with their mouthes open... But does not always lead to dates).

Generally. Women flirt with their clothes and bodies. (Never been attracted to naked women myself but am attracted to women. When I have had women strip to try and attract me I have grabbed something to cover them!)

Generally men flirt with their things. Trains... Cars... Bicycles... Things like that. The practical things. Show her your tools such as spanners, screwdrivers and the like, and it may give a better effect. (I think women like men who are practical). Or show her your car, or your bicycle... It steers conversations to things you will understand.

But don't bother looking smart, as you will be forced to dress like that for the rest of your life (Scary!)

I have never married so I can't say much about that.

But yes. Just be who you are. The right one will love you just the way you are!

And lastly, women like a sense of humour. So scrub what I have said above, and go with that!

^^^ yeah...just the last line