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Yesterday, 5:18 pm

I was very concerned lately, is it possible we are more prone to emotional instability or anger? I ask because I had a huge meltdown with raising my voice, and going to my room scream crying into a pillow. I just don't know why I have issues with people, for example one Woman in work I feel she treats me differently, so I raised my voice to her saying excuse me in Spanish, and also said if you have a problem with me now is the time to say it. I see the other people in work and they seem fine, maybe it's just I had bad luck with women so I am cautious or read wrong? quick to get angry or feel a slight



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Yesterday, 6:12 pm

I think that's not uncommon for folks on the spectrum.



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Yesterday, 9:30 pm

I feel slighted often out at work, but have developed a thick skin from working full time for so many years. If you don't develop a thick skin, then you will not survive out at work. You cannot be Joe Sensitive.

It helps to remind yourself (don't ever tell anyone else at work) that you have autism and this is why people act like that. It is about the only reason. Some things you can help, some things you can't. You just soldier on and take one day at a time. What you find if you pay attention is that people slight everybody, not just one person, not just you. That is just the way that people are to one another.

Another problem is that due to the autism, about half the time, when I feel slighted, it is because I did not fully understand the context or meaning of a social situation. So I have learned not to take things too seriously in the social sphere.


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Yesterday, 9:30 pm

Are we more prone to anger or emotional instability?

Yes.



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Yesterday, 11:08 pm

The reason is because our brains are having to process so much more information at any given time than non Autistic brains have to. So we get overwhelmed much more easily and much more quickly. Our brains are having to use so much more energy all the time than typical brains. So our tolerance tends to be less and our fuses tend to be shorter. And if your brain is completely overwhelmed, it is more prone to blowing a circuit which is basically what a meltdown is.


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Today, 4:47 am

Depends where the autistic inclination lies.

Some are under-regulated, which translates into instability, reactivity and anger.
And some are over-regulated, which ended up with underreaction, freezing and confusion.

Same internal processes and overwhelm.
Different reaction to said internal processes and overwhelm.


There are autistics whose worry is that they're too emotional and angry.
They tend to try and expend their energies overregulating or unable to.

And there are autistics whose worry is that they ain't "human enough". :roll:
Some knew they ought to react or feel something. They either cared enough to fake it, or not.

The basis is the same; issues around emotional processing and having uneven social and emotional profiles.


As someone who's very known to have unwanted emotional fits -- it's not as simple as it looked.
There are so many factors as to where those source of emotional issues are coming from and I say it's not as simple as saying it's the autism.

While the chances of said emotional problems are more common, it's that it's not all blamed on autism.


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Today, 8:20 am

I have my dealings with emotional instability. I think my limbic system is underdeveloped.


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Today, 10:48 am

Edna3362 wrote:
Depends where the autistic inclination lies.

Some are under-regulated, which translates into instability, reactivity and anger.
And some are over-regulated, which ended up with underreaction, freezing and confusion.

Same internal processes and overwhelm.
Different reaction to said internal processes and overwhelm.


There are autistics whose worry is that they're too emotional and angry.
They tend to try and expend their energies overregulating or unable to.

And there are autistics whose worry is that they ain't "human enough". :roll:
Some knew they ought to react or feel something. They either cared enough to fake it, or not.

The basis is the same; issues around emotional processing and having uneven social and emotional profiles.


As someone who's very known to have unwanted emotional fits -- it's not as simple as it looked.
There are so many factors as to where those source of emotional issues are coming from and I say it's not as simple as saying it's the autism.

While the chances of said emotional problems are more common, it's that it's not all blamed on autism.
The same Autistic person can also have both of these issues and they can change depending on the brain's ability to manage energy at any given time.


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Today, 10:55 am

CockneyRebel wrote:
I have my dealings with emotional instability. I think my limbic system is underdeveloped.
That is true for all of us. There have been numerous studies that have shown that the limbic systems of Autistic people are, in fact, underdeveloped. The most poignant study that I have found showing this was by Dr. Margaret Bauman back in the early 70s or late 60s, I am not sure of the date of that particular study. But in that study she did an autopsy comparison and compared nt brains to Autistic brains. And one of her findings in that study was that in 100 percent of the Autistic brains that she looked at, the neurons in the limbic system were too small and too many. This means that in 100% of the Autistic brains in that study, I don't remember how many subjects there were, it might have been like 400 but I am not sure, the limbic systems of the Autistic brains were underdeveloped and were in fact, identical to the limbic systems of children's brains. You can find the youtube video where she talks about this. Her study is well documented and it is easy to look up. But since then, there have been other studies confirming this.


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Today, 11:04 am

skibum wrote:
Edna3362 wrote:
Depends where the autistic inclination lies.

Some are under-regulated, which translates into instability, reactivity and anger.
And some are over-regulated, which ended up with underreaction, freezing and confusion.

Same internal processes and overwhelm.
Different reaction to said internal processes and overwhelm.


There are autistics whose worry is that they're too emotional and angry.
They tend to try and expend their energies overregulating or unable to.

And there are autistics whose worry is that they ain't "human enough". :roll:
Some knew they ought to react or feel something. They either cared enough to fake it, or not.

The basis is the same; issues around emotional processing and having uneven social and emotional profiles.


As someone who's very known to have unwanted emotional fits -- it's not as simple as it looked.
There are so many factors as to where those source of emotional issues are coming from and I say it's not as simple as saying it's the autism.

While the chances of said emotional problems are more common, it's that it's not all blamed on autism.

The same Autistic person can also have both of these issues and they can change depending on the brain's ability to manage energy at any given time.

Yeah. That ability and inability happens to me on a daily basis.

And I want a just as variable and just as flexible skill to compensate from that instead of the head being fooled over the idea of consistency.

Even if I overcame at least two major factors by myself -- I also have to contend with other factors.

Autism is just one major factor.
The very factor of 'why' I cannot afford other factors.

I have other more factors and I believe it can be overcome like I did with the others; most of which are outside autism.


skibum wrote:
CockneyRebel wrote:
I have my dealings with emotional instability. I think my limbic system is underdeveloped.
That is true for all of us. There have been numerous studies that have shown that the limbic systems of Autistic people are, in fact, underdeveloped. The most poignant study that I have found showing this was by Dr. Margaret Bauman back in the early 70s or late 60s, I am not sure of the date of that particular study. But in that study she did an autopsy comparison and compared nt brains to Autistic brains. And one of her findings in that study was that in 100 percent of the Autistic brains that she looked at, the neurons in the limbic system were too small and too many. This means that in 100% of the Autistic brains in that study, I don't remember how many subjects there were, it might have been like 400 but I am not sure, the limbic systems of the Autistic brains were underdeveloped and were in fact, identical to the limbic systems of children's brains. You can find the youtube video where she talks about this. Her study is well documented and it is easy to look up. But since then, there have been other studies confirming this.

Does this account to the effects of trauma abd mental health issues?

Well.

The whole topic is one huge reason why I don't like being a human. And my aim to rise above it if I ever have to live in this lifetime.


And yes -- the limbic system is one huge suspect to me. I already had a major breakthrough with it in the last several months since.

While it's true it's highly likely underdeveloped; I'd rather find a way out of it's dysfunction.
And I found my own ways, and I'm starting to find my path to a truer end goal.

And I intend to master it.
Just like how I intend to master autism itself. Especially if and if that's the part of being autistic.

I'll master my own humanity if I have to. :lol:


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Today, 3:38 pm

Edna3362 wrote:
skibum wrote:
Edna3362 wrote:
Depends where the autistic inclination lies.

Some are under-regulated, which translates into instability, reactivity and anger.
And some are over-regulated, which ended up with underreaction, freezing and confusion.

Same internal processes and overwhelm.
Different reaction to said internal processes and overwhelm.


There are autistics whose worry is that they're too emotional and angry.
They tend to try and expend their energies overregulating or unable to.

And there are autistics whose worry is that they ain't "human enough". :roll:
Some knew they ought to react or feel something. They either cared enough to fake it, or not.

The basis is the same; issues around emotional processing and having uneven social and emotional profiles.


As someone who's very known to have unwanted emotional fits -- it's not as simple as it looked.
There are so many factors as to where those source of emotional issues are coming from and I say it's not as simple as saying it's the autism.

While the chances of said emotional problems are more common, it's that it's not all blamed on autism.

The same Autistic person can also have both of these issues and they can change depending on the brain's ability to manage energy at any given time.

Yeah. That ability and inability happens to me on a daily basis.

And I want a just as variable and just as flexible skill to compensate from that instead of the head being fooled over the idea of consistency.

Even if I overcame at least two major factors by myself -- I also have to contend with other factors.

Autism is just one major factor.
The very factor of 'why' I cannot afford other factors.

I have other more factors and I believe it can be overcome like I did with the others; most of which are outside autism.


skibum wrote:
CockneyRebel wrote:
I have my dealings with emotional instability. I think my limbic system is underdeveloped.
That is true for all of us. There have been numerous studies that have shown that the limbic systems of Autistic people are, in fact, underdeveloped. The most poignant study that I have found showing this was by Dr. Margaret Bauman back in the early 70s or late 60s, I am not sure of the date of that particular study. But in that study she did an autopsy comparison and compared nt brains to Autistic brains. And one of her findings in that study was that in 100 percent of the Autistic brains that she looked at, the neurons in the limbic system were too small and too many. This means that in 100% of the Autistic brains in that study, I don't remember how many subjects there were, it might have been like 400 but I am not sure, the limbic systems of the Autistic brains were underdeveloped and were in fact, identical to the limbic systems of children's brains. You can find the youtube video where she talks about this. Her study is well documented and it is easy to look up. But since then, there have been other studies confirming this.

Does this account to the effects of trauma abd mental health issues?

Well.

The whole topic is one huge reason why I don't like being a human. And my aim to rise above it if I ever have to live in this lifetime.


And yes -- the limbic system is one huge suspect to me. I already had a major breakthrough with it in the last several months since.

While it's true it's highly likely underdeveloped; I'd rather find a way out of it's dysfunction.
And I found my own ways, and I'm starting to find my path to a truer end goal.

And I intend to master it.
Just like how I intend to master autism itself. Especially if and if that's the part of being autistic.

I'll master my own humanity if I have to. :lol:
The physiological and neurological design is how we are created in the womb. It is not due to trauma. But, trauma can also play a major part in our development along side the neurological design. I have never met an Autistic person who has not had some form of trauma in their lives so I think that we all also experience the effects of this.

As far as making the best of what you have and what you are, go for it. Like we say in ski racing, "Ski what you brung!"

For people who have a hard time understanding the ski phrase, it means, ski with the equipment you brought with you. Not everyone has the financial means to have the best ski or ski racing gear so you do your best and you make the most of whatever you have. :D


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