Lack of confidence and how to regain it

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It's been a recent revelation that confidence is a byproduct of success and can be a reflection of how people treat you. The call to tell someone, "just be confident, bro" can have negative implications based on false promises because our brains have a record of previous attempts and rejections in both social situations and dating opportunities.

The way to build confidence is to have a legible track record of accomplishments in terms of academics, looks, social status, talent, etc. Trying to hack your brain into being more confident isn't going to build a solid ground that lasts in social situations.

Don't know if anyone has advice for this issue or if it's over.

One thing that has helped me is paying a bit of attention to how I look. After years of kitchen jobs that trashed clothes I finally landed a job where I can dress how I want to, and discovering that I do have a personal style that I like and putting together cohesive "looks" has made a big difference in how I feel in when I'm out and about, especially when I can see the difference in how people treat me.

It's an interesting theory and one that rings true. I think if it's true that accomplishments build confidence, then it makes sense to take on a project and complete it successfully, or learn a new skill and then apply it, or just learn something new. Confidence may be called upon in social situations but it's not necessarily only built in social situations. Having any kind of accomplishment, even a small one, can increase confidence.