I thought she was interested, but she rejected me

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Hello, I'm new here.
There is this girl that works as a volunteer in a place where they have coffey and other things.
I first met this woman three years ago but we didnt speak much. If we did speak it was two or three meanings, nothing more. I was not interestred in her at this time.

This year we have spoken more frequent but brief. I became interested in her. And we have been flirting. Atleast i thought that she was.

She could come up to me saying she thought of me when she saw my favourite team playing.
She sat down at my table talking about her life and she said she liked me. Yes i understand we can like people we're not romantic interested in.

One day she sat down beside me on my table and there were three other persons ther, but she spoke with me 80%. We had long eyecontact and smiled. She told us that she had asperger, or autism 1.

So this was about two weeks ago, and last week I went up to her and asked if she wanted to grab a couple of beer sometime. She instantly said, with a smile, - which seem weird - that: "No, we're not aloud to do that."

And now i can't get her out of my mind.But I will though.

I would be more happy if she told me straight up that she wasn't interested instead of saying that she wasn't aloud.

i could swear - at the time - that she did like me.

Im going to let this go but a part of me hoping shes going to change her mind.

Do anybody has any advice to give?
Sorry for my poor english and my babbling.

TBH, women are the absolute worst when it comes to communicating romantic interest clearly. It's unlikely that she was interested in you, that sounds like more or less just normal friendliness.

I wouldn't see her response as a rejection. Maybe she just doesn't drink alcohol or she dislikes it. A smile isnt weird: if she had said it with a frown or straight face it would be an indication she's not interested.

I wouldn't burn ny bridges with her. Suggest something else: coffee, skating, a nature walk etc.

Looking at her answer gives the impression she might belong to a religion or sect that doesn't permit its members to use alcohol. Just a possibility.

maybe alcohol is too forward for her because can lead to sex in some situations, you could try something that doesn't involve alcohol and during the day

If volunteers at the cafe are not allowed to date customers or meet up with them outside of the cafe I would take that response at face value: she had to say no or she would get in trouble with the cafe. That means she might or even would have said yes if it wasn't for that rule.