Have you ever been in love?

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And was it reciprocated? Did it turn into a relationship? End in heartbreak or disappointment?

And if you've been in a relationship, were you in love with the person when it started or did it take getting to know them for you to develop feelings? (Or maybe you never developed feelings of love but just appreciate the person for who they are and enjoy being with them?)

I was very much in love with my first boyfriend, and it was reciprocated. It took just a little time for us to fall in love. We were friends before we started dating although it didn’t take long for us to become more than friends. There were nights when we stayed up until dawn talking.

The day I broke up with him was the worst day of my life, maybe for him, too. It was a complicated situation. I was very romantic when I was young. It never occurred to me until that point that love isn’t always enough.

Wherever he is, I hope that he’s happy. Sometimes I worry about that.

No one else has been in love? You can also answer no...

I thought I was in love with my previous boyfriends

Well I was...but not in the same way as I am right now with David!! !

No. I have had strong feelings for a woman though
it was not reciprocated.

Women and men approach love differently.

Woman will feel love for a man when he has career stability and financial security.
If he can offer her that, he is much more attractive.

A man doesn't have to have financial stability or a career to attract love. If that was the case only a few people in the upper financial tier would have love. The vast majority of the world's people are poor. And the majority have relationships, and love.

^the question is, what is the difference between them and the poor middle-class people?

How do they easily attract love?

I know it's not impossible to find a date, but as a man your prospects are limited largely by your income.
This is just reality.
Women who have their own careers are generally looking for a man who is self sufficient.
I would like to find love but I do not feel it is likely to happen unless my income increases.
I am not interested in dating other lower income women, generally speaking. I'm not on any dating sites and I don't expect to find a partner that I'd be interested in who is on disability.

I want to do better in my career and have high expectations of myself. I'd like to be in a position where I am financially well off and I can date the women I am attracted to.

Having said that, I have been stuck without any career progress for years. It is frustrating surviving on disability.
It feels as though you are left out of society, both professionally and personally. I am not trying to sound like a 'poor me' either. I am being frank about the reality as I experience it.

No.

I’m asexual. I do feel guilt towards anyone I get into a relationship with. I think it also has to do with ptsd and bad people. They have feelings for me but I don’t have those feelings like a normal person and would prefer something more platonic I think. I’ve tried a few therapy sessions where they wanted me to test the waters or set rules etc. is it wrong to feel disgust toward this stuff? Wish the world wasn’t so hard sometimes.

^I think that however you feel, it's not wrong. Your feelings are valid.

Long ago I came out to my then best friend and then in the months after that I gradually fell for her and we got into a relationship. I fell hard for her and I thought it was reciprocated, but the relationship didn't last long. So it ended in heartbreak.

She said she loved me, too, so I don't know what happened. I knew her family was super conservative and I wondered if perhaps she decided dating me would cause too many complications with her family. IDK. and I may never know - our relationship ended fairly quickly, but the friendship didn't. That friendship would eventually end, and it was a very long, cold end. (even still that earlier this year when I was getting ready to move out of state I thought I should say something just as a former BFF, but I decided to hold myself back and not do that. It sucks having no closure, though. Oh well. Hope she's living a happy life whatever she's doing with it)

I don't fall in love but once in a blue moon. Seeing as that love I had with her has always been the model, I only fall in love with people I am already friends with. I can't see love coming without knowing someone for a while first.

The answer is no. Romantic love does not exist in my realm of existence anymore. I have too much past abusive trauma to expect someone to understand.

The only love I know of is conditional love that always has strings attached. My family weaponizes it to get things that they want from me. The manipulative phrase “If you love me, you will do/give me ...” was used a lot on me by family members when I was younger. I have since discovered it is not love at all, but rather a form of mental/emotion abuse. I equate that particular phrase with hate now.