Are we supposed to have everything sorted before 30?

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Everyone leads their own life. Just cos two people take different paths doesn't mean one is wrong and one is right. If your path takes you where you where you want to go, your life is working.

But you have to know what YOU like, and what YOU want, and where YOU want to go.

Relying on "the world" to tell you or show you who or what you should be, doesn't work. You'll just end up trying to be a thousand different things, cos people want a thousand different things, and are a thousand different things. It's impossible to be all of them. And it's meaningless to do any of them, unless they mean something to YOU.

As with most of your questions, the root lies in what YOU want in life. Answer that first, instead of trying to find happiness in what others do, or in things you think you're "supposed to" be doing.

People who seem to have everything sorted out, especially at an early age, usually had things handed to them or thrust upon them, and that person simply accepted it w/o question. It's not what they wanted, it's not what they worked for, it's just what fell in their lap.

I'm divorced, no kids, don't care, don't care what society says. Did what I could in life, that's enough for me. I think people that have lots of money and time on their hands, let them be the ones to have the children, they can afford it and have time to deal with the situation. As for me, I had to work for a living, and it has not been easy.

I'd also bring up the idea that just because someone has everything sorted at some point before thirty, it doesn't mean their s**t remains sorted. Sometimes they suffer a catastrophic setback domestically, or with their career, or a major legal issue, or whatever.

Everyone who has their stuff sorted out only really has it sorted out for now.

My mother was 45 when I was born, and my father 55.

I'm lucky just to be here.

https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Temple_Grandin
Temple Grandin, now 77 years old, was one of the first successful people to go public with their diagnosis of autism and wrote several books to help those on the spectrum. Back then many did not include romantic relationships as one of their life goals.

thats the societal expectation sadly

"26 years ago, I was made redundant and given a few grand. I decided that if I was careful, I could live off the money for 6 months trying to become a comedian before I had to get another job. I was 37. Worth a punt."

~Ricky Jervais