Do people really believe in this statement?

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Escape1894
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10 Dec 2024, 9:43 pm

“There someone out there for everyone” when it comes to relationships?

I personally don’t. I think there are some of us (humans) in which we aren’t compatible with anyone else. I’m probably going to end up as one of these people.



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10 Dec 2024, 11:55 pm

Escape1894 wrote:
Do people really believe in this statement? “There someone out there for everyone” when it comes to relationships?

I do.

Sadly, there are people who figuratively "shoot themselves in the foot" when it comes to relationships.

Who would want to have a relationship with someone who has a negative attitude about themselves, other people, and the world in general?


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11 Dec 2024, 12:03 pm

I believe in that statement as a general rule. There are exeptions of course, like if you are a serial killer or something similar.


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11 Dec 2024, 5:54 pm

I also believe it for the most part. It might take more time and effort to get there for some, but I don’t think it’s usually impossible. By effort, I mean finding ways to meet new people and working on whatever might be holding you back. I know a lot of us struggle with social skills and shyness, myself included.


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11 Dec 2024, 6:05 pm

I think that there are people who are very solitary and who find it hard form close relationships in person. Some people have difficulty sharing space and so on. I imagine that would be a fairly common problem for autistic people versus the NT population.

Being that ASD comes with social difficulties, regardless of whatever coping mechanisms have been formed to deal with any deficits in this area, a relationship is simply a dream for many ASD folk that will never materialize.

For some autistic folk, finding a partner can turn into an abusive situation.

I agree that there isn't necessarily someone for everyone.



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11 Dec 2024, 6:08 pm

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Escape1894 wrote:
“There someone out there for everyone”


Yes. Totally. Maybe not the right person, or the perfect person, or even a half-decent person, but definitely a person out there somewhere. Sometimes they are only that person for you for five minutes, a night, a week, a month, or a lifetime.


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